What to say when someone hurts your feelings and not hide your truth

How to react when someone hurts your feelings

Ava Miles, who has recently released a new series of non-fiction books, is helping women let themselves be more comfortable expressing their inner goddesses. Miles shares with us on how to handle and what to say when someone hurts our feelings through her series The Goddess Guides to Being a Woman. If you read “Goddesses Don’t Do Drama: Removing Toxicity from Relationships,”which is one of the books from the series, it helps people get through relationship moments when they are feeling hurt or angry.

It takes courage to go from hurt to healing. What’s one of Ava’s secrets in knowing what to say when someone hurts your feelings? Transforming unhealthy relationship patterns.

According to Miles, many of us never learned how to express anger and sadness. Sometimes that may be the case because we are encouraged not to do so. We simply don’t know how to say things kindly when we’re upset. And sometimes it can make us physically ill and unhappy.

“You don’t have to walk away or wait until after the ‘f*ck you’ to speak your truth,” says Miles. It all begins with recognizing and removing victim/perpetrator language from the conversation.

What Is Victim/Perpetrator Language?

Here are some examples:

  • It’s all your fault.
  • You did this.
  • You’re to blame for this.
  • You’re wrong.
  • You’re not giving me enough.
  • This isn’t good enough.
  • You’re not pulling your weight.

Victim/perpetrator language is the language of drama. In order to get to the open-hearted, honest, loving communication we all crave — we need to begin to recognize and move away from the raised-voice or talk-to-the-hand variety. Ava invites us all to try our hand at goddess-woman language by using statements such as:

  • I feel…
  • What I think I hear you saying is…
  • This is hard for me to say, but I’d like to share this with you…
  • This doesn’t feel very loving or kind to me.
  • I want to understand.
  • My feelings are my responsibility.
  • I take responsibility for my part in _______.

“Goddess women use words that convey love, compassion, kindness, affirmation, and honesty,” says Miles. “Sure, we all have moments when we might not be able to package our feelings and thoughts into a big red bow, and that’s okay. We can be honest about that too.”

Learn more information by visiting  www.AvaMiles.com.

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How to cut out relationship drama: Ava Miles’ guide to being a woman

Ava Miles photographed by Karthia Zolfaghari.
Photo Credit: Kathia Zolfaghari

No matter social status, race, gender or religion, we all experience relationship challenges from time to time but there’s a hidden cause behind relationship drama and a way to end it once and for all.

International bestselling author Ava Miles, whose brand new book series “The Goddess Guides to Being a Woman” was released in August to discuss ways to remove relationship drama. Many people say they want less drama in their lives, but how many of us are actually able to identify when we are active participates on the drama and make a different choice to avert that drama?

Miles states the underlying cause of relationship drama is victim/perpetrator language … it is its own communication style, a negative style of communication. The core of the language uses guilt, shame, and manipulation to bring about desired results —classic perpetrator-style. It objectifies the parties involved, casts blame and takes no personal responsibility, and creates explosive and intractable conflict in relationships. It divides couples and prevents them from having loving interactions with others, including the people in our own family, home life, workplace, and community.

If you are living in a drama-filled relationship battered by toxic communication, you have to recognize what is going on. Here are the common strategies or phrases people use in relationships that continuously feed on drama:

* You never do anything special for me
* You always say you’re going to do it and then you don’t
* You always forget about me
* You’re not giving me enough
* You’re not pulling your weight
* This isn’t good enough
* I need more from you
* I want more from you
* This isn’t working
* I need you to do better than this

Miles says, “Goddess women speak differently. The words we use not only convey our deepest feelings and thoughts, but also our divine nature. As a goddess woman, we want to use words that are loving and kind because it’s who we truly are. We speak from our hearts. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable when saying something doesn’t come easily, when it’s a little scary to share this much of ourselves.”

Here are some examples of goddess woman language:
* I feel…
* That makes me feel like…
* What I think I hear you saying is…
* This is hard for me to say, but I’d like to share X with you…I’m not sure how to say this…
* I want to share with you
* I want you to share with me
* Can we be totally honest here?
* This doesn’t feel very loving or kind to me
* I want to understand
* My feelings are my responsibility
* I take responsibility for my part in X

For more information, visit AvaMiles.com.

About Ava Miles

International bestselling author Ava Miles calls herself a divine rockstar—something she believes everyone is deep down. With a B.A. in Rhetoric and Technical Writing and Spanish and two graduate degrees, one in International Peace Studies and another in Political Science, Ava Miles spent many years traveling the world and sharing her gifts with women and men in war-torn countries, helping them to rebuild and reintegrate their communities amidst intense struggle. She has managed multi-million-dollar projects and multi-national teams of people in the private sector, in non-profits and in domestic and international agencies as well as multilateral organizations such as the United Nations. Now, she brings that experience together with her passion for sparking joy and personal success in people’s lives, launching an all-new series of life-fulfillment books called “The Goddess Guides to Being A Woman.” With seven books in total, “The Goddess Guides” invite us all to reimagine what it means to be a modern woman—on our own terms.

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Life and family: Six tips for a stress free summer

It is the summertime and we hope the living is easy but sometimes the least expected happens. Families face all kinds of pressure during the summer time: the kids are bored; there’s not enough money to go on that perfect vacation; the job is stressing you out and you have no idea how prepared you or the kids will be by the time for everyone to go back to school and work when it’s all over. Luckily veteran holistic physician and author of The Emotion Code, Dr. Bradley Nelson, has tips to share on how to enjoy a stress-free summer.

Beating the Summertime (Stress) Blues

Even though summers are supposed to be relaxing, they can be stressful. In one survey, a third of Americans reported that they find themselves more stressed during the summer than any other season. Here are some of Dr. Nelson’s tips for enjoying a more relaxing summer:

1. Plan ahead and be flexible about your expectations, whether it’s summer activities for the kids or vacation plans. Everyone else has expectations and sometimes they won’t match with yours. Plan for spontaneity. If you allow the plans that others have to be a part of what brings you joy, you’ll have more fun as everyone shares ideas and activities. Be the one who makes the vacation fun for others and it will be more joyful for you.

2. Be aware of what your body needs. This includes healthy food, plenty of water, rest and exercise. So don’t throw your routines out the window when you’re on vacation. Get plenty of exercise so you’ll feel good. Continue eating healthy. You’ll feel better about yourself if you’re really taking care of your body.

3. Decide to take care of yourself emotionally. You may need specific things such as the emotional support of a spouse, a lunch date with a friend or even just some time alone. Decide how busy you want to be ­– or not be. Say “no” to trying to do too much if it interferes with your health, family time or if it feels like it’ll cause too much stress for you.

4. Communicate with love. If you’re feeling stressed by interactions with family or others, take a breather. You might go outside for a few minutes to get some fresh air. Be kind to everyone, including yourself. Give hugs. Make sure you’re not overreacting. None of us communicate perfectly. Try to see what others really mean, not just what they say. Give them the benefit of the doubt because it’s likely no offense was meant. Ask for clarification and react appropriately, with kindness, love and forgiveness. Some people really don’t have a handle on their behavior but it doesn’t have to affect how you feel or be your problem.

5. Choose Your Emotions: Most people have this mistaken belief that our emotions choose us; that we are at the mercy of whatever emotions we tend to start feeling. But the reality of it is, no matter what the circumstance is, we always are choosing our own emotions. It’s important to recognize that fact. You don’t always have control over what happens to you but you can choose to respond proactively.

6. Identify and release “trapped emotions,” unresolved feelings from past negative and traumatic events emotional baggage can cause us to make wrong assumptions, react emotionally and contribute to anxiety, depression and most forms of illness.

About Dr. Bradley Nelson

Dr. Bradley Nelson has lectured internationally on the natural healing of chronic illness and successfully treated patients from across the US and Canada for more than 20 years. Dr. Nelson has trained more than 3,200 practitioners worldwide on how to help people overcome unresolved anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness and other negative emotions and the physical symptoms associated them. He is one of the world’s foremost experts in the emerging fields of Bioenergetic Medicine and Energy Psychology. His bestselling book “The Emotion Code” is helping people all over the world to improve their lives. Download a free copy of The Emotion Code in both audio and .pdf versions, including step-by-step instructions for working with the body’s healing power at EmotionCodeGift.com or the app that works on iPhones, iPads and other Apple devices.

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Healing relationships by mending with our parents

Bad parenting and to mend relationships with parents

With Mother’s Day and Father’s Day coming up, people are searching for ways to honor their parents. But what about those who have unhappy or estranged relationships with their parents? Veteran holistic physician and author Dr. Bradley Nelson is here to discuss how to let go of emotional baggage we hold onto from our relationships with our parents.

Healing Relationships and Preventing Drama for Adult Kids

As grownups we often have a hard time letting go of painful emotions associated with our parents due to our vulnerability when we were kids – the people who know us the best sometimes can hurt us the most. Dr. Nelson, author of the bestselling book The Emotion Code, has been treating patients and researching and lecturing internationally for more than 20 years on healing “trapped emotions” that damage our health and wellbeing.

“All of us experience negative emotional extremes at times. Sometimes, for reasons that we do not yet understand, emotions do not process completely. In these cases, instead of us simply experiencing the emotion and then moving on, the energy of the emotion somehow becomes ‘trapped’ within the physical body,” he explains. “So instead of moving beyond your angry moment, or a temporary bout with grief or depression, this negative emotional energy can remain within your body, potentially causing significant physical and emotional stress.”

Dr. Nelson can expand on these tips for releasing emotional baggage:

  1. Take into account your parents’ emotional baggage. Heart-Walls™ are energetic barriers made of accumulated trapped negative emotions that can prevent people from freely giving and receiving love. When we understand that our parents’ hearts may be blocked by fear, anger or other negative emotions, it can help us to have compassion, forgive and let go of our own emotional baggage.
  1. Speak your mind without creating drama. Dr. Nelson shares how to cope with insensitive family members – and where to draw the line. The key: “Make it a non-emotional situation.”
  1. Learn from your parents’ mistakes. Look at mistakes in a positive light – they helped you learn what NOT to do.

Above all, we should seek to approach our relationships with our parents with humility rather than blame. “Your parents are just human, they’re not supposed to be more,” he advises.

About Dr. Bradley Nelson

Dr. Bradley Nelson has lectured internationally on the natural healing of chronic illness and successfully treated patients from across the US and Canada for more than 20 years. He has trained more than 2,500 practitioners worldwide on how to help people overcome unresolved anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness and other negative emotions and the physical symptoms associated them. Dr. Nelson is one of the world’s foremost experts in the emerging fields of Bioenergetic Medicine and Energy Psychology. His bestselling book “The Emotion Code” is helping people all over the world to improve their lives easily and quickly. Download a free copy of The Emotion Code in both audio and .pdf versions, including step-by-step instructions for working with the body’s healing power at EmotionCodeGift.com.

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Wine and food pairings [ infographic] surprisingly delicious and unusual

Do you know how many foods go great with wine? We here to tell you about the foods you least expect to go great with wine. Why? Because we enjoy wine pairings and the health benefits of wine, particularly red wine. Save and book this ’15 unusual wine & food pairings’ infographic so you can know which food items to get along with your wine the name time you go grocery shopping.

15 unusual wine and food pairings [ infographic]

Looking at the wine and food pairings infographic below, here are the ones we think you can enjoy this summer out of the list below:

The entree wine pairings

  • Salmon Burger with a Greek Santorini Assytriko
  • Venison with a Riesling ( make sure the venison is pan-seared)
  • Sushi with a Sparkling Rose …so good! The smell of fruit with fresh seafood is heavenly.
  • Tacos!  The spices and assortment of meat with vegetables just goes perfect with a red wine.


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    (via Mr.Gamez).

Share this wine and food pairings [ infographic] with friends and family to keep in mind for summer parties. It will not only make for fun conversations during wine tasting but also it’s fun to just try something new. Your taste buds will thank you and you just may make a few new friends along the way. Let Fromgirltogirl know about your favorites, by liking us on our Facebook page and leaving us a message. Happy to receive your recipes, photos and videos from your wine parties as well. Let us know if you would like us to share on social media. We love spreading the word on awesome food and recipes, especially when we can eat and drink for our health. You may also be interested in following us on Instagram for an inside look at our daily lives – fitness, healthy eating, fashion and more.  Enjoy!

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Relationship expert Inga Verbeeck must read dating tip for millennials

Inga Verbeeck chats modern dating and how to find the right romantic partner.
Relationship Expert Inga Verbeeck

In today’s challenging world of dating, matchmaking has become increasingly popular among millennials and older generations. And there are even matchmaking agency readily available to help singles navigate the hostile modern dating atmosphere. A popular matchmaking agency ready to help is Ivy International, an international matchmaking agency which takes a holistic approach that is uniquely tailored to each client after getting to know them face to face. The head of Ivy International is relationship expert Inga Verbeeck, who has some pretty strong opinions about dating modern men.

About Relationship Expert Inga Verbeeck and her Team

Inga and her team of skilled professionals have helped countless men and women find the love of their life, and have found themselves encountering the same problems time after time. Because she works with some of the most successful people in the world, Inga has found that modern men are often intimidated by independent women. “A lot of men think that because a woman is successful, she must be a bitch,” says Inga, “I get the feeling that men these days lack balls. Just like with men, the way women behave in their professional and personal lives can be worlds apart.”

Picture of two statues entangled together as a symbol of love.

Is Romance Dead? 

When it comes to women being attracted ( including the most successful women), they look for someone to be assertive. Verbeeck says

 “Although we’ve evolved towards being more equal, there is still a lot of work to be done towards true gender equality. Nonetheless, we must embrace that men and women are different, in the same way we embrace that each of us is different on an personal level. In order to pursue true equality, women do not need to “become masculine”. Instead, we must embrace our differences and our natural state of being, whether that be feminine, transgender or something else – and own it. We cannot and should not defer from who we are at our core and our genetic predisposition. I notice nearly all the women I work with are looking for someone who will take charge. Someone who she can look up to.”

Women look for men that are stronger than she is in some aspect, whether it be physically, professionally, or in something else entirely.

Inga Verbeeck’s Tip to Modern Men

Verbeeck’s tip to modern men: “Be a gentleman. Learn how to court a woman in a romantic situation, and not just for sex. At the same time, while women don’t want to be dominated or disrespected, be a bit more of an alpha. Be assertive but be respectful. Don’t be afraid to take charge in any situation, and of course we’re always looking for men to make the first move.” As with all things in life, balance is key. In a world of ying and yang, men and women have always balanced each other out. I think it’s time we return to this truth and celebrate it.” Learn more about relationship Inga Verbeeck and how she can help you meet your match by visiting her website.

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Scandal 100th episode: Olivia Pope Weds in An Anne Barge Gown

Scandal 100th Episode Olivia Pope marries Fitz.
Olivia Pope marries Fitz in alternate reality.

Scandal Gladiators have always dreamed of a Liv-Fitz wedding and Shonda Rhimes finally delivered on ABC Scandal’s 100TH    an alternate reality special where Olivia Pope ( played by Kerry Washington) weds President Fitzgerald Grant (played by Tony Goldwyn) but the conversation was more about the beautiful wedding gown Olivia Pope had on for the wedding, which was designed by fashion designer Anne Barge. 

 The Dress

The Anne Barge ‘Berkeley’ ball gown is made of Kalika silk with a chiffon bodice and off-the-shoulder cap sleeves. Costume designer Lyn Paolo selected the gown for Olivia Pope’s fantasy wedding with iconic style in mind, “Anne Barge was an amazing find for Olivia. We looked for a dream gown and Anne delivered. Olivia looked stunning in the gown and I could not be more thrilled” says Paolo.

 The Atlanta-based designer was ecstatic to see Washington’s character in the dress, “Berkeley is one of my most special gowns. It is both timeless and chic, perfect for a modern, classic bride” says Barge.

Dream Wedding Dress: Anne Barge Berkeley Gown
Anne Barge Berkeley Gown worn by Olivia Pope on ABC Scandal’s 100th episode.

About Anne Barge Bridal Collection

Founded in 1999, the Anne Barge Bridal collection is renowned for timeless gowns with a contemporary twist. Inspired by vintage couture, the Anne Barge collection combines the best of classic design and modern trends, using the finest fabrics, embellishments, and embroidery sourced throughout the world. Anne Barge offers an abundance of elegant options for the discerning bride in two collections, Anne Barge Couture and Blue Willow Bride by Anne Barge. With profound expertise in creating special occasion gowns, Anne Barge Eveningwear is made with Anne’s trademark attention to detail, from fabric to fit.

The Anne Barge philosophy is simple, “Good design is timeless”.

The truth underneath it all. #scandal #scandal100 Gotta be comfy.

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Anne Barge is based out of Atlanta, GA with retailers worldwide. A favorite among celebrity brides and red carpet icons alike, Anne has created custom designs for Laura Benanti, Johanna Braddy, Kristen Cavallari, Taraji P. Henson, Lauren Alaina, Yvonne Orji, Violett Beane, Amirah Vann, Amber Riley, Leah Pipes, and Eva Longoria. Follow online @AnneBarge @AnneBargeBride

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Best of Vegan Wine Pairings: Saving the planet 1 wine at a time | Proud Pour

Berlin Kelly and Brian Thurber of the Proud Pour Team | Vegan Wine Maker

Red wine from Proud Pour - Pint Noir

At the start of the New Year, I made a promise to myself to eat healthier by buying fresh foods, organic foods and making more homemade meals. In addition to making healthier choices, I also self-promised to workout daily for 15-30 minutes. Some days I feel less motivated to workout but I try to be physically active in some shape or form – walking, running, yoga or dancing. Since keeping up with this habit my body feels lighter and I have more energy. Now I am searching for healthier beverages.

One of my favorite beverages to drink is wine – Sauvignon Blanc and Pinot Noir. But what if I could get a healthier, more refreshing option of my favorite wines? This started my journey to natural wine, vegan wine.

What is Vegan Wine?

How to drink and make a difference with vegan wine 20160809 Proud Pour Berlin Kelly-1

Vegan wine is wine that doesn’t include animal products. You may be asking “Don’t all wines not have meat?” That depends on the wine filtration process. Tiny particles , traces of meat are found in wine when filtered through animal products. With vegan wine you can avoid  animal products altogether without sacrificing the delicious taste of wine. Some common animal products you can find in traditional wines are:

  • Albumin, the protein in eggs
  • Casein, an animal protein found in dairy products
  • Gelatin which from animal skin, bone and cartilage
  • Isinglass which is the gelatin from fish bladders
  • Egg whites
  • Chitosan carb found in shrimp, crab, and crustacean shells

Older wines may also have dried blood powder. If this sounds gross to you, wine lovers have drunk wines with some if not these particles inside. But why are these ingredients in wine? The animal products help clarify, filter, and refine wines and beers. Inevitably small traces of those animal products are found in the final beer and wine products. The wonderful thing about vegan wine is that it doesn’t have to use animal products to clarify, filter and refine. Instead, bentonite clay can refine wines to make them 100% vegan.

If you are wondering whether you can easily spot vegan wines when shopping for wine, you may find it challenging because the refining ingredients are not actually in the wine and not required to be listed on the wine bottle. I recommend going directly to a wine maker or wine retailer to confirm which wines are vegan wines – a high quality vendor will always keep track of wines that are vegetarian-friendly. This is how I discovered Proud Pour , a vegan wine provider committed to pairing wines with solutions to local environmental problems.

Berlin Kelly Gif for Proud Pour

About Proud Pour

Environmentally friendly products are very important to me because I want to be mindful of how my habits and behaviors impact the world around. Doing research on Instagram about vegan wines, I discovered the hashtag#CheersToChange – a tagline Proud Pour uses on their Instagram page @ProudPour. They have two wines available now.


The first wine is The Oyster, a Sauvignon Blanc that restores 100 wild oysters per bottle. It also happens to be the perfect pair for oyster or seafood plates. This is appealing to me because I’m on a chicken and seafood diet now while also enjoying vegan food here and there.

Proud Pour Pinot Noir made in Umpqua Valley.
Photo credit: Webb Chappell Photography

The second wine is Oregon Pinot Noir that saves bees by planting 875 wildflowers. Pinot Noir goes well with salmon, roasted chicken, pasta dishes, casseroles, stews and game birds like duck or quail. It can also go well with chocolate desserts and those with caramel.

Pinot Noir and Sauvignon Blanc from Proud Pour Wine maker.
Order online at ProudPour.com or find a distributor near you. Photo credit:Webb Chappell Photography.

No matter your preference of wine type, both are sustainably grown, vegan wines (and soon beer come this summer or summer 2018) to save the environment. Between the Sauvignon Blanc and the Oregon Pinot Noir, I decided to go for the wine that saves the bees. Regardless you cannot go wrong with either because you are making a difference.

I look at the back of the Oregon Pinot Noir wine bottle and read the facts about the importance of wildflowers to bees. Bees pollinate one-third of the food we eat. Native bees are disappearing because of pesticide use, disease and lack of wildflowers and habitat. By buying this vegan wine from Proud Pour, I help ( and you can support too) the bees survive because Proud Pour plants 875 wildflowers when wine lovers buy. That amount of wildflowers is the equivalent of 90 sq ft of bee habitat. Where? Local farms. The project is called Xerces Society.

Wine Tasting of the Oregon Pinot Noir

The Oregon Pinot Noir is not only sustainably grown and vegan, it is delicious with supple tannins, earthy tones, and rich notes of red plum, rhubarb, and vanilla. What I absolutely love about Proud Pour is their attention to detail. The wine bottle is beautiful. It has an illustration of a bee with the description “This wine saves bee species.” It also comes with a lovely sack that has  seeds to plant wildflowers which I cannot wait to use when I get my first home. This wine has no eggs, casein or isinglass. I love it – cannot wait for my family and friends to try. Moreover, I am proud that a woman entrepreneur, Berlin Kelly, founder of Proud Pour produce this excellent wine for us to enjoy on date night, at weddings, corporate events and our favorite nights of TV.

Berlin Kelly and Brian Thurber of the Proud Pour Team | Vegan Wine Maker
Founder and CEO Berlin Kelly and Co-CEO Brian Thurber launched Proud Pour to drink and make a difference at the same time.

About the Proud Pour Team

Berlin and business partner Brian Thurber launched Proud Pour because they wanted to drink to make a difference.  How many beverages can you really say make a difference when you go to the bar? Not many. They partner with local environmental group to do just that – and it’s awesome. Check out the list of non-profits Proud Pour supports today. The Proud Pour team encourages their fans to attend the non-profits’ events or reach out to see how they can help. Learn more on how they got started by reading ‘ Paired with Oysters, This Wine is Cleaning Up the New York Harbor.’

Where to Buy

ProudPour.com Vegan Wines

The great thing about Proud Pour is that it gives wine lovers (and soon-to-be beer lovers) options on how to get their drink on. If you click Where to Buy at ProudPour.com you can find a Proud and Pour wine distributor near you or order right online. I love the buy online option because it allows me to buy in advance of special occasions and comes right to my door. Once it’s a habit, it’s easy.

Let me know what you think about Proud Pour by using the hashtag #CheersToChange

 

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Study reveals financial prowess of singles ahead of Tax Day

Treat Yourself Tax Refund Gamut
Plenty of Fish Survey Shows Cars, Las Vegas and Getting Inked Dominate “Craziest Refund Spends” for singles when it comes to tax day refunds.

Tax Day is just around the corner and Plenty of Fish (POF), one of the largest global online dating companies, surveyed 3,000 singles across the U.S. to uncover the finer points of taxes and finances.

Key Findings

  • Only 11 percent of singles said they spend their tax refund, while 65 percent said they like to save some and spend some
  • When it comes to dating and money, 22 percent of women said they would not date someone who makes less money than them
  • More than 85 percent of singles said they tell the truth about how much they make, and fewer than 2 percent make less money than they claim to make
  • 38 singles spent their tax refund on a tattoo, with women out-inking men 22 to 16

Additional data and findings are available on this infographic, including the craziest things singles have spent their tax refund on (download graphic here).

Savvy Spenders and Savers

  • Nearly 26 percent of men said they save their tax refund, compared to less than 20 percent of women.
  • More than 34 percent of baby boomers save their tax refund, making them almost twice as likely to save their refund than any other age group.

Treat Yourself

When asked about the craziest thing singles have spent their refund on, write-in responses from them ran the gamut between practical and NSFW – and highlight a Mars versus Venus divide.

  • Car Parts: More than 190 men claimed their craziest tax return spend was on a car – the highest response by far.
  • Vegas Baby: Vacations made the top three, but Las Vegas hit the jackpot – 27 men and 8 women claimed this popular destination as their “craziest tax refund spend.”
  • Get Inked: 38 singles got tattoos with their refund, with women out-inking men 22 to 16.
  • Honorable Mention:24k gold grill for teeth, 10 gallons of beef jerky, skydiving lessons… and a horse.

Fast and Informed Filers

  • Twenty-eight percent of singles file their taxes in January, as soon as they get their forms, while fewer than 10 percent of singles said they file on Tax Day.
  • The fastest filers are 20-somethings: 35 percent said they are likely to file as soon as they get their forms, versus only 18 percent of baby boomers
  • When asked how they would rate their understanding of the tax filing process, 23 percent of singles said they had excellent knowledge, 34 percent said good and 33 percent said average.

Additional Tax Takeaways

  • On average, only four percent of men and women have looked at a partner’s tax return behind their back. Coming in at around five percent, men 35-44 and women 45-54 are most likely to peek.
  • The percentage of singles who have charitable write-offs increases in every decade of life – with only 27 percent of twenty-somethings taking advantage of this tax write-off, versus 54 percent of baby boomers.
  • More than five percent of men and almost eight percent of single women don’t file taxes.

For Most Singles, Money isn’t Everything

  • A whopping 89 percent of singles said they would date someone who made less money than them.
  • Women tend to be less forgiving on the financial front. More than 96 percent of men said they would date someone who makes less money than them, but nearly 22 percent of women said they would not date someone who makes less money than them.
  • Women 26-34 are most likely to date someone who makes less than them (83 percent), compared to other female age groups.

For those ready to dive deep into financial conversations on their next date, Plenty of Fish can be downloaded for free from the Google Play and iTunes stores. For more details on the survey view here.

About Plenty of Fish (POF)

Plenty of Fish (POF), a Match Group (MTCH) company, is one of the largest global online dating companies. Available in 11 languages and more than 20 countries, Plenty of Fish has more than 100 million registered users, with 65,000 new users signing up every day. Unlike many dating offerings today, POF is all about having great conversations. In fact, singles have more quality conversations on POF than any other dating app, which can lead to stronger connections, smarter matches and better dates. For more information, please visit here or download POF from Google Play or iTunes.

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New Survey: How 3,500 College Students Use Dating Apps

Abodo, an apartment search platform, interviewed 3,500 college students to uncover how and why they use the dating site Tinder and other dating apps that revealed surprising results. To see the full report, read ‘Swipe Right for Love?’.

How are college students using dating apps? INFOGRAPHIC

Key Findings

  • 37% of men DO NOT think using dating apps while in a relationship is cheating.
  • 31.5% of female app users said they would NEVER hook-up on a first date.
  • 9.4% of male app users said they would NEVER hook-up on a first date.
  • 84% of college students prefer Tinder over any other dating app.
  • 91% of college students are primarily NOT using the apps for hook-ups.
  • 27% say that they’ve been sexually harassed on dating apps (Grindr and OkCupid report the highest rates).

Which dating apps are college students using the most?

First-Date Hookup

What's the goal when using a dating app?

Thoughts on the Survey

It surprises us at Fromgirltogirl how many college students prefer to use Tinder because that particular dating app is for hook ups for the most part. We assumed there would be more of a balance of hook-up culture and wanting a monogamous relationship but the survey indicates less people are looking for just hook ups. A finding that did not surprise us were the number of men using dating apps and not considering it as cheating while in a relationship. We feel this is accurate because men define cheating differently than women. We have even heard men define a need for sexual interactions with multiple partners while in a relationship as something fun to do – not thinking how it could emotionally or physically harm a significant other. As for women saying they would never hook-up on a first date, we believe that is based on not wanting to be seen as too promiscuous versus not having the thought to hook-up on a first date.

A physically attractive person that one enjoys the company of is hard to resist. It is a temptation from the start because it’s desire. Just because a woman says she would never hook-up on a first date, it doesn’t mean she wouldn’t if the opportunity came into fruition. However, we do feel more men in comparison to women would jump at the chance to hook-up on a first date. More shockingly, we are shocked that 91% of college students are not using dating apps for hook-ups. Are students looking for steady dating but lost hope in face-to-face first introductions? It is definitely something to look more into. Chat with Fromgirltogirl on Facebook and Twitter to let us know what works and doesn’t work for you when using dating apps. What is your primary reason for using dating apps? We would love to hear from you.

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