Ava Miles, who has recently released a new series of non-fiction books, is helping women let themselves be more comfortable expressing their inner goddesses. Miles shares with us on how to handle and what to say when someone hurts our feelings through her series “The Goddess Guides to Being a Woman.” If you read “Goddesses Don’t Do Drama: Removing Toxicity from Relationships,”which is one of the books from the series, it helps people get through relationship moments when they are feeling hurt or angry.
It takes courage to go from hurt to healing. What’s one of Ava’s secrets in knowing what to say when someone hurts your feelings? Transforming unhealthy relationship patterns.
According to Miles, many of us never learned how to express anger and sadness. Sometimes that may be the case because we are encouraged not to do so. We simply don’t know how to say things kindly when we’re upset. And sometimes it can make us physically ill and unhappy.
“You don’t have to walk away or wait until after the ‘f*ck you’ to speak your truth,” says Miles. It all begins with recognizing and removing victim/perpetrator language from the conversation.
What Is Victim/Perpetrator Language?
Here are some examples:
It’s all your fault.
You did this.
You’re to blame for this.
You’re not giving me enough.
This isn’t good enough.
You’re not pulling your weight.
Victim/perpetrator language is the language of drama. In order to get to the open-hearted, honest, loving communication we all crave — we need to begin to recognize and move away from the raised-voice or talk-to-the-hand variety. Ava invites us all to try our hand at goddess-woman language by using statements such as:
What I think I hear you saying is…
This is hard for me to say, but I’d like to share this with you…
This doesn’t feel very loving or kind to me.
I want to understand.
My feelings are my responsibility.
I take responsibility for my part in _______.
“Goddess women use words that convey love, compassion, kindness, affirmation, and honesty,” says Miles. “Sure, we all have moments when we might not be able to package our feelings and thoughts into a big red bow, and that’s okay. We can be honest about that too.”
Good marital advice is priceless to millennials who struggle to navigate dating scene and feel overwhelmed by thought of marriage and a family lifestyle. When Peter Davidson, author of various book publishers, grandson Joel got engaged, Davidson decided to jot down some words of marital wisdom to Joel. The marital advice was based on his vast experience as a husband and thought why not share this wisdom with the world. From there, Davidson started his blog maritaladvicetomygrandsonjoel.com to share upbeat and humorous advice and stories of married life that any engaged couple, newlywed, long-married person, or single person will find insightful and fun to read. He adds new “wisdom” to the site every week. If you subscribe to the blog, you will automatically receive each update. Let us know what you think.
Inspired by the stunning shores of the Mediterranean Sea, Eddy K Bridal’s 2018 collection features glamorous details, exquisite laces and show-stopping silhouettes. The collection recently premiered at Bridal Week, and is available at Designer Loft Bridal in New York City. Take a look at some of the new styles on our Instagram. Dresses are available for pulls. For more information visit EddyK.com.
It’s wedding season and swimsuit model Kate Upton sat down with Yahoo Style’s recently to discuss her insecurities about wearing a bikini, her weight as well as her plans for her upcoming wedding. Here are some highlights from Upton’s interview:
Swimsuit Model Kate Upton Says She’s ‘Still Not Confident in a Bathing Suit’
Yes, even a super model like Kate Upton has body image insecurities. She says she is still not confident in a bathing suit. This is why she eats healthy and sticks to a work out routine to feel at her best. Upton says:
You always have struggles. It’s not like I always feel my best. Everybody has moments where they don’t feel confident in a bikini. It’s what we’re striving for: self-love. We work our way up. When I don’t feel my best, that’s OK.”
Yahoo Styles asked Upton is she trying to lose wait for her wedding day. The answer is no because she is not worried about a number. Why won’t Upton lose weight for her wedding? Here’s her complete answer:
“Honestly, because coming from the fashion world, weight — when I first started modeling — was very important. How much you weighed, how much you needed to lose, whatever it was…I’m not trying to be fit for a number on a scale. Whenever I’m happiest, I try to maintain that. I don’t need a number.”
Upton does not even stick to a strict diet. Instead, she tries to eat healthy, work out and keep up a healthy lifestyle. Upton does this because she wants to allow herself the freedom to enjoy what she eats. In the interview Upton admits “I weight-train, which also really helps raise my metabolism and gives me the ability to enjoy food.”
Wedding season is approaching and it is time to select the perfect gift for new couples. No matter the time of year, a high-tech gadget that keeps loved ones closer is always a favorite and highly memorable wedding gift. Nucleus , an Alexa-enabled home intercom device, is a tech gadget that brings loved ones closer together, whether they’re downstairs or across the country. Its full-touchscreen intercom can be mounted or propped anywhere to create instant points of audio and video communication between rooms, homes, or mobile-to-home with its smartphone app. This is the reason why it’s on our list of favorite wedding gifts to give.
About the Nucleus Design
Nucleus is designed to be simple and intuitive so that anyone, at any age, can use it – from grandparents to kids – just tap the device you want to connect with and you’re there instantly. It is also voice-enabled with Alexa Voice technology so you can stream music, add items to a grocery list, check the weather and much more. All you have to do is ask. And that in itself makes it a perfect gift for busy couples that travel often, have out-of-state relatives, or are planning to expand the family soon. Yes, the Nucleus is a perfect baby monitor.
Product Highlights of Nucleus
Nucleus connects to other devices over Wi-Fi or via an Ethernet cable.
Nucleus pairs with a smartphone app for iOS and Android, so that users can access their device from any location from anywhere in the world.
Users can take control over their privacy with features for do not call (turns off ringer) do not disturb (ring to answer) as well as a physical camera shutter for added privacy. You can also toggle Alexa on/off.
Where to Buy Nucleus
Nucleus retails at $199 and can be purchased in Lowe’s stores across the country, on Amazon.com, or Nucleuslife.com.
Scandal Gladiators have always dreamed of a Liv-Fitz wedding and Shonda Rhimes finally delivered on ABC Scandal’s 100TH an alternate reality special where Olivia Pope ( played by Kerry Washington) weds President Fitzgerald Grant (played by Tony Goldwyn) but the conversation was more about the beautiful wedding gown Olivia Pope had on for the wedding, which was designed by fashion designer Anne Barge.
The Anne Barge ‘Berkeley’ ball gown is made of Kalika silk with a chiffon bodice and off-the-shoulder cap sleeves. Costume designer Lyn Paolo selected the gown for Olivia Pope’s fantasy wedding with iconic style in mind, “Anne Barge was an amazing find for Olivia. We looked for a dream gown and Anne delivered. Olivia looked stunning in the gown and I could not be more thrilled” says Paolo.
The Atlanta-based designer was ecstatic to see Washington’s character in the dress, “Berkeley is one of my most special gowns. It is both timeless and chic, perfect for a modern, classic bride” says Barge.
About Anne Barge Bridal Collection
Founded in 1999, the Anne Barge Bridal collection is renowned for timeless gowns with a contemporary twist. Inspired by vintage couture, the Anne Barge collection combines the best of classic design and modern trends, using the finest fabrics, embellishments, and embroidery sourced throughout the world. Anne Barge offers an abundance of elegant options for the discerning bride in two collections, Anne Barge Couture and Blue Willow Bride by Anne Barge. With profound expertise in creating special occasion gowns, Anne Barge Eveningwear is made with Anne’s trademark attention to detail, from fabric to fit.
The Anne Barge philosophy is simple, “Good design is timeless”.
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Anne Barge is based out of Atlanta, GA with retailers worldwide. A favorite among celebrity brides and red carpet icons alike, Anne has created custom designs for Laura Benanti, Johanna Braddy, Kristen Cavallari, Taraji P. Henson, Lauren Alaina, Yvonne Orji, Violett Beane, Amirah Vann, Amber Riley, Leah Pipes, and Eva Longoria. Follow online @AnneBarge@AnneBargeBride
At the start of the New Year, I made a promise to myself to eat healthier by buying fresh foods, organic foods and making more homemade meals. In addition to making healthier choices, I also self-promised to workout daily for 15-30 minutes. Some days I feel less motivated to workout but I try to be physically active in some shape or form – walking, running, yoga or dancing. Since keeping up with this habit my body feels lighter and I have more energy. Now I am searching for healthier beverages.
One of my favorite beverages to drink is wine – Sauvignon Blanc and Pinot Noir. But what if I could get a healthier, more refreshing option of my favorite wines? This started my journey to natural wine, vegan wine.
What is Vegan Wine?
Vegan wine is wine that doesn’t include animal products. You may be asking “Don’t all wines not have meat?” That depends on the wine filtration process. Tiny particles , traces of meat are found in wine when filtered through animal products. With vegan wine you can avoid animal products altogether without sacrificing the delicious taste of wine. Some common animal products you can find in traditional wines are:
Albumin, the protein in eggs
Casein, an animal protein found in dairy products
Gelatin which from animal skin, bone and cartilage
Isinglass which is the gelatin from fish bladders
Chitosan carb found in shrimp, crab, and crustacean shells
Older wines may also have dried blood powder. If this sounds gross to you, wine lovers have drunk wines with some if not these particles inside. But why are these ingredients in wine? The animal products help clarify, filter, and refine wines and beers. Inevitably small traces of those animal products are found in the final beer and wine products. The wonderful thing about vegan wine is that it doesn’t have to use animal products to clarify, filter and refine. Instead, bentonite clay can refine wines to make them 100% vegan.
If you are wondering whether you can easily spot vegan wines when shopping for wine, you may find it challenging because the refining ingredients are not actually in the wine and not required to be listed on the wine bottle. I recommend going directly to a wine maker or wine retailer to confirm which wines are vegan wines – a high quality vendor will always keep track of wines that are vegetarian-friendly. This is how I discovered Proud Pour , a vegan wine provider committed to pairing wines with solutions to local environmental problems.
Environmentally friendly products are very important to me because I want to be mindful of how my habits and behaviors impact the world around. Doing research on Instagram about vegan wines, I discovered the hashtag#CheersToChange – a tagline Proud Pour uses on their Instagram page @ProudPour. They have two wines available now.
The first wine is The Oyster, a Sauvignon Blanc that restores 100 wild oysters per bottle. It also happens to be the perfect pair for oyster or seafood plates. This is appealing to me because I’m on a chicken and seafood diet now while also enjoying vegan food here and there.
The second wine is Oregon Pinot Noir that saves bees by planting 875 wildflowers. Pinot Noir goes well with salmon, roasted chicken, pasta dishes, casseroles, stews and game birds like duck or quail. It can also go well with chocolate desserts and those with caramel.
No matter your preference of wine type, both are sustainably grown, vegan wines (and soon beer come this summer or summer 2018) to save the environment. Between the Sauvignon Blanc and the Oregon Pinot Noir, I decided to go for the wine that saves the bees. Regardless you cannot go wrong with either because you are making a difference.
I look at the back of the Oregon Pinot Noir wine bottle and read the facts about the importance of wildflowers to bees. Bees pollinate one-third of the food we eat. Native bees are disappearing because of pesticide use, disease and lack of wildflowers and habitat. By buying this vegan wine from Proud Pour, I help ( and you can support too) the bees survive because Proud Pour plants 875 wildflowers when wine lovers buy. That amount of wildflowers is the equivalent of 90 sq ft of bee habitat. Where? Local farms. The project is called Xerces Society.
Wine Tasting of the Oregon Pinot Noir
The Oregon Pinot Noir is not only sustainably grown and vegan, it is delicious with supple tannins, earthy tones, and rich notes of red plum, rhubarb, and vanilla. What I absolutely love about Proud Pour is their attention to detail. The wine bottle is beautiful. It has an illustration of a bee with the description “This wine saves bee species.” It also comes with a lovely sack that has seeds to plant wildflowers which I cannot wait to use when I get my first home. This wine has no eggs, casein or isinglass. I love it – cannot wait for my family and friends to try. Moreover, I am proud that a woman entrepreneur, Berlin Kelly, founder of Proud Pour produce this excellent wine for us to enjoy on date night, at weddings, corporate events and our favorite nights of TV.
About the Proud Pour Team
Berlin and business partner Brian Thurber launched Proud Pour because they wanted to drink to make a difference. How many beverages can you really say make a difference when you go to the bar? Not many. They partner with local environmental group to do just that – and it’s awesome. Check out the list of non-profits Proud Pour supports today. The Proud Pour team encourages their fans to attend the non-profits’ events or reach out to see how they can help. Learn more on how they got started by reading ‘ Paired with Oysters, This Wine is Cleaning Up the New York Harbor.’
Where to Buy
The great thing about Proud Pour is that it gives wine lovers (and soon-to-be beer lovers) options on how to get their drink on. If you click Where to Buy at ProudPour.com you can find a Proud and Pour wine distributor near you or order right online. I love the buy online option because it allows me to buy in advance of special occasions and comes right to my door. Once it’s a habit, it’s easy.
Let me know what you think about Proud Pour by using the hashtag #CheersToChange
Tax Day is just around the corner and Plenty of Fish (POF), one of the largest global online dating companies, surveyed 3,000 singles across the U.S. to uncover the finer points of taxes and finances.
Only 11 percent of singles said they spend their tax refund, while 65 percent said they like to save some and spend some
When it comes to dating and money, 22 percent of women said they would not date someone who makes less money than them
More than 85 percent of singles said they tell the truth about how much they make, and fewer than 2 percent make less money than they claim to make
38 singles spent their tax refund on a tattoo, with women out-inking men 22 to 16
Additional data and findings are available on this infographic, including the craziest things singles have spent their tax refund on (download graphic here).
Savvy Spenders and Savers
Nearly 26 percent of men said they save their tax refund, compared to less than 20 percent of women.
More than 34 percent of baby boomers save their tax refund, making them almost twice as likely to save their refund than any other age group.
When asked about the craziest thing singles have spent their refund on, write-in responses from them ran the gamut between practical and NSFW – and highlight a Mars versus Venus divide.
Car Parts: More than 190 men claimed their craziest tax return spend was on a car – the highest response by far.
Vegas Baby: Vacations made the top three, but Las Vegas hit the jackpot – 27 men and 8 women claimed this popular destination as their “craziest tax refund spend.”
Get Inked: 38 singles got tattoos with their refund, with women out-inking men 22 to 16.
Honorable Mention:24k gold grill for teeth, 10 gallons of beef jerky, skydiving lessons… and a horse.
Fast and Informed Filers
Twenty-eight percent of singles file their taxes in January, as soon as they get their forms, while fewer than 10 percent of singles said they file on Tax Day.
The fastest filers are 20-somethings: 35 percent said they are likely to file as soon as they get their forms, versus only 18 percent of baby boomers
When asked how they would rate their understanding of the tax filing process, 23 percent of singles said they had excellent knowledge, 34 percent said good and 33 percent said average.
Additional Tax Takeaways
On average, only four percent of men and women have looked at a partner’s tax return behind their back. Coming in at around five percent, men 35-44 and women 45-54 are most likely to peek.
The percentage of singles who have charitable write-offs increases in every decade of life – with only 27 percent of twenty-somethings taking advantage of this tax write-off, versus 54 percent of baby boomers.
More than five percent of men and almost eight percent of single women don’t file taxes.
For Most Singles, Money isn’t Everything
A whopping 89 percent of singles said they would date someone who made less money than them.
Women tend to be less forgiving on the financial front. More than 96 percent of men said they would date someone who makes less money than them, but nearly 22 percent of women said they would not date someone who makes less money than them.
Women 26-34 are most likely to date someone who makes less than them (83 percent), compared to other female age groups.
For those ready to dive deep into financial conversations on their next date, Plenty of Fish can be downloaded for free from the Google Play and iTunes stores. For more details on the survey view here.
About Plenty of Fish (POF)
Plenty of Fish (POF), a Match Group (MTCH) company, is one of the largest global online dating companies. Available in 11 languages and more than 20 countries, Plenty of Fish has more than 100 million registered users, with 65,000 new users signing up every day. Unlike many dating offerings today, POF is all about having great conversations. In fact, singles have more quality conversations on POF than any other dating app, which can lead to stronger connections, smarter matches and better dates. For more information, please visit here or download POF from Google Play or iTunes.
A new survey reveals that women would be willing to go without sex, gain 10 pounds or take a pay cut in order to get clear skin. Think that’s surprising? The survey also found women will cancel a date or plans because of a zit, would rather have their period than a breakout on their wedding da. The average woman is willing to go as far as editing their selfies to cover their skin before posting pictures on social media. This survey is the Curology‘s State of Acne in America, which polled more than 1,000 women between the ages of 18-44 who have suffered from acne, blackheads or clogged pores at some point in their lives and the results are shocking.
Sorry, Bumble: Almost 15% of women between the ages of 18-24 are likely or very likely to cancel plans or a date because of a breakout.
Period on your Wedding day: 59% of women said they’d rather have their period than a breakout on their wedding day
Selfie Cover Up: 40% of women admitted to editing a picture to cover a blemish before posting on social media. When looking at women ages 18-24, the number goes up to 52.6%.
How Far Would You Go? Almost half of women 18-24 (44%) would be willing to gain 10 pounds, take a pay cut or be celibate for six months to have clear skin.
Find the full survey results for an inside look into women’s emotional, social and professional struggles caused by acne and explore what they would be willing to sacrifice for clear skin.
The Dermatology crisis of America
There are less than 10,000 dermatologists in the United States and more than 50 million people suffering from acne, access to quality care can be limited while the desire to conquer breakouts and end skincare stress is widespread. Curology, the skincare company that offers customized prescription acne care for every customer online, released its inaugural survey on the State of Acne in America.
The survey provides a comprehensive look at the challenges women face when dealing with acne and highlights how far women of all ages are willing to go to achieve clear skin. The survey was conducted online with Google Consumer Surveys among 1,001 women, between the ages of 18-44, who have suffered from acne, blackheads or clogged pores at some point in their lives.
Curology is the only solution that offers customized acne formulas for each customer. A dedicated dermatology provider reviews photos of each customer’s face and analyzes responses to medical questions before prescribing a tailor-made formula. Each formula has prescription-strength ingredients not available over-the-counter, and Curology ships the personalized formula directly to the customer’s door.
The Purpose of the State of Acne in America Survey
“Our hope with the State of Acne in America survey is to expose the underlying struggles women face when dealing with their acne and understand just how important it is for them to find an effective treatment,” said David Lortscher, MD, board-certified dermatologist and the founder and CEO of Curology. “This survey validates what our dermatology providers hear from customers every day – that acne is more than just skin deep. Changes in the appearance of the skin have a major impact on a person both socially and emotionally – and that’s why I created Curology.”
Wearing Your Emotions
Suffering from unwanted acne, blackheads or clogged pores can be challenging for women of all ages. In many cases, social situations can exacerbate the emotional toll acne takes and brings unwanted commentary.
A staggering 52% of women 18-24 have had a significant other or family member comment on their acne, blackheads, or clogged pores in a negative way. With the palpable pressure of having clear and photo-ready skin, women of all ages are willing to subject themselves to other burdens to avoid a very public breakout.
Acne and the Workplace
Women who suffer from acne, blackheads or clogged pores also struggle with nerves and feelings of anxiety in the workplace, potentially putting their professional reputation and future at risk.
36.6% of women admitted to feeling nervous or anxious going into a job interview or big presentation because of their acne. The nerves increase even more for younger women, with 40.6% of women 18-24 admitting the same feelings of anxiety.
52.4% of women who have had someone close to them comment on their acne in a negative way also admitted to having felt nervous or anxious going into a big presentation or job interview.
A Financial Blemish
Whether it’s taking a pay cut at work or shelling out $100 a month, the prospect of achieving clear skin can drive women to sacrifice well-earned money.
Of women 18-34 who said they would be willing to take a pay cut for six months to have clear skin, 57.9% would be willing to pay $100/month for 10 years ($12k) to guarantee their skin would be cleared of any acne, blackheads or clogged pores for life.
20.5% of women would be willing to pay $100/month for 10 years ($12K) to guarantee their skin would be cleared of any acne, blackheads or clogged pores for life. That number jumps to 26.4% for women 18-24.
Do you hope for a better sex life? Are you no longer attracted to your partner? If yes, you may be carrying emotional resentment in your body. Energy Healing Educator & Program Developer Natalie Nelson uses her new Body Code expansion “Resonating Relationships: The Energy of Romance” to identify and heal the issues that are shutting you down and turning you off to your partner.
Is Resentment Making Your Partner Less Attractive to You?
True intimacy between partners takes trust and mutual feelings of safety. Holding onto past emotional traumas, however, can block us from being open to giving and receiving love. Some example sources of emotional trauma include:
Infidelity, whether from your current partner, a previous one or even from what you witnessed with your parents
Experiencing abuse, whether as a child or an adult
Witnessing abuse as a child or adult
Death of a partner or any other loved one
“These are just some of the traumas people experience that begin to shut us down when it comes to love,” according to Natalie. “And from there, resentment can build between partners… resentment over mismatched sexual desire, money issues, parenting disagreements and more.”
When she found herself in a failing marriage, Dr. Brad’s daughter Natalie Nelson—an integral part of this thriving family business—became inspired to create the “Resonating Relationships” to help those in challenging relationships to heal themselves so they could show up more fully and openly in their partnership.
“Resonating Relationships” is made up of two parts: an evaluation guide and a session guide. During the evaluation portion, people answer a series of questions that pull personal details about their past and their experience of love and relationships into the conscious mind. In the session portion, the practitioner uses The Body Code (which includes The Emotion Code) to address and heal specific disharmony as it relates to relationship issues manifesting within the body.
“Having struggled in relationships myself and seeing a lot of people I know struggle in their relationships,” says Natalie, “I got really frustrated because I believe it shouldn’t be so difficult. So much of the reason why we struggle is because there are things going on inside of us that we’re just not aware of. We’re all just kind of feeling around, blindly trying to find some kind of balance in our relationships. With ‘Resonating Relationships,’ you can identify specific issues that you may never have honed in on before and bring them into consciousness. It taps into things that, for most people, have largely been unexplored.” For more information visit DrBradleyNelson.com and EmotionCode.TV.
About Natalie Nelson
Energy Healing Educator & Program Developer Natalie Nelson has spent more than 15 years studying, experiencing and teaching the powerful healing that is possible through The Emotion Code and The Body Code, created by her father, Dr. Bradley Nelson. A key member of this highly successful family business, Natalie brought The Body Code and The Emotion Code teachings into every aspect of her life. When she found herself in a failing marriage, she became inspired to create a new Body Code expansion program to help those in challenging relationships—including herself—to heal. Whether you’re single, dating, in a committed relationship or married, Natalie’s new system, “Resonating Relationships: The Energy of Romance,” can affect powerful change that heals individuals and couples from the inside out. In addition to being a certified and experienced Body Code and Emotion Code practitioner, Natalie is the facilitator of the official Body Code mentorship program where she guides and supports more than 3,000 practitioners. She currently resides in Salt Lake City, UT