By Briana Booker
Washington, District of Columbia local dating coach and author of “You Lost Him at Hello,” Jess McCann is spunky and informative! As a graduate of George Mason University ’99, McCann carries herself with much class and liveliness. She is charismatic,bluntly honest, independent, and confident! We at Fromgirltogirl love these traits about her and just had to interview this extraordinary woman! But, how did she become a successful entrepreneur and a must read publisher? We are here to tell you it was not easy,but persistence and a dream allowed McCann to do all this and more!
The story behind the author.
McCann’s first job after graduating George Mason university was a sales job. She went from door to door trying to selling merchandise. This was a commission only job and McCann was not very fond of this particular occupation. However, it led her to start a sales company in Texas, which she held for four years. During this venture she realized that business and dating were parallel to one another, and that business tactics could be used to improve one’s dating. Learn sales; learn better dating.
McCann went into the career of selling medical equipment, and by January 2007, she quit this occupation. McCann decided to follow her dream to be a published writer! She received a book deal and wrote about how she used business tactics to improve her dating for her friends and herself. Her written wisdom became popular and she decided to run her own business as a dating coach, as well as run her own blog magazine!
McCann states: ” If you take risk early in life, you have a greater chance to succeed.” She took a leap of faith and it worked!
Questions & Answers session: Relationship and dating do’s and don’ts
Q: What motivates you?
A: I am motivated to help women see where they are going wrong. I hate seeing people go down a path that will make them unhappy.
Q: Do you see yourself as a role model for young women?
A: Yes, I see myself as a role model for young women. I show that it is possible to find true love. I found the love of my life and my best friend at the same time. I took me 9 months to find him. After that, we dated for awhile and now we are engaged.
Q: What are some signs you are dating a shady guy?
A: Dig into his past,. Ask about his ex’s and other relationships. These previous interactions give insight. If he bashes his ex(s) in front of you or none of his ex(s) have been serious relationships this is a warning sign. He might have dating phobias. Also, how he treats women and other relations he should naturally care about, such as his mom, sister and family is a signal of how he will treat you. Family is all you have at the end of the day. If he can not treat these people with respect, he will not come close to treating you with respect.
Q: How should a woman attract a good guy?
A: Respect yourself, and men will respect you. How you dress matters. Yes, men are attracted to women who expose their cleavage,but there is a big difference between easy and hot. You want to be hot, not easy.
Q: How do you balance taking care of your significant other needs, and at the same time, not neglect your needs to maintain a good relationship?
A: You have to ask yourself: Do I really want to fight over this? Is it really important to have this discussion? Where is the line crossed? If it compromises your own values, then you should stand up for yourself. However, you should not argue about everything. If you do, you will always be arguing with one another and that will result in an unhappy relationship.
McCann not only answered our questions but she gave us great pointers we think all women, single and in serious relationships, should hear. The advice is as followed:
- If single, put yourself first when you are starting to date. When your own needs are met, dating is enjoyable and less dramatic.
- If you are in a serious relationship, put the other person needs first. In return, this person should be putting your needs first. It is all about learning to work as a team,but still continue to enjoy one another.
- Do not let him do all the work. When prospecting, approach men, encourage them to approach you. Break the ice. Smile and have eye contact. Doing it the right way brings positive results.
- For our younger readers: Do not stay on a date too long. These days dates are too long. Do not have a night on the town and then stay the night with him. You do not want him seeing you the next day with smelly breath and your hair all over the place. Leave at the height of impulse. Best time to leave is when you both are at the height of enjoyment. You want him to think about you,even when you are not physically present. Leaving when he has a great impression of you is key and will keep him wanting more!
If you find McCann’s advice useful pick up her book at Amazon.com . Remember the title: You Lost Him at Hello
( click the link to purchase the book on Amazon)! Also, check out her blog and website links below:
We wish you only happy dating and happy relationships.