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A REVIEW OF TECHNIQUES IN MANAGING DEPRESSION

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By Stanley Popovich

Some people have a difficult time in managing their depression.  Sometimes, their depression and fears can get the best of them.  As a result, here is a short list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their depression.

One of the ways to manage your depression is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or depressed, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense. For example, your afraid that if you do not get that job promotion then you will be stuck at your job forever. This depresses you, however your thinking in this situation is unrealistic. The fact of the matter is that there all are kinds of jobs available and just because you don’t get this job promotion doesn’t mean that you will never get one. In addition, people change jobs all the time, and you always have that option of going elsewhere if you are unhappy at your present location.

Some people get depressed and have a difficult time getting out of bed in the mornings. When this happens, a person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do to get their mind off of the problem.  A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. Doing something will get your mind off of the problem and give you confidence to do other things.

Sometimes, we can get depressed over a task that we will have to perform in the near future. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you and your team have to play in the championship volleyball game in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large audience. By playing the game in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform for real when the time comes. Self-Visualization is a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a coming situation.

Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that makes you feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket.  Whenever you feel depressed, open up your small notebook and read those statements.

Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem.  By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future. Managing your fears and anxieties takes practice.  The more you practice, the better you will become.

The techniques that I have just covered are some basic ways to manage your depression, however your best bet is to get some help from a professional.

BIOGRAPHY:

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/ 
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MANAGING YOUR PERSISTENT FEARS, ANXIETIES, AND STRESSES

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By: Stanley Popovich

 

Everybody deals with anxiety and depression, however some people have a difficult time in managing it. As a result, here is a brief list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their most persistent fears and every day anxieties.

 

When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is divide the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

 

Sometimes we get stressed out when everything happens all at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem.  A person could get some fresh air, listen to some music, or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things.

 

A person should visualize a red stop sign in their mind when they encounter a fear provoking thought. When the negative thought comes, a person should think of a red stop sign that serves as a reminder to stop focusing on that thought and to think of something else. A person can then try to think of something positive to replace the negative thought.

 

Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that makes you feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket.  Whenever you feel depressed or frustrated, open up your small notebook and read those statements.   This will help to manage your negative thinking.

 

Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. You never know when the answers you are looking for will come to your doorstep. We may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.

 

Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem.  By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.  Remember that it never hurts to ask for help.

 

Dealing with our persistent fears is not easy.  Remember that all you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and take things in stride. Patience, persistence, education, and being committed in trying to solve your problem will go along way in fixing your problems.

 

BIOGRAPHY:

 

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/ 

 
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Historical Review of the Wage Gap Between Men and Women

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By Sam Mauzy

Before World War II, the number of women working outside the home held mostly industrial jobs that were light in nature. This continued when the war first started. Women were assigned jobs in sewing and detailed assembly, where women’s nimble fingers could do the job better. The Manpower commission for War labor even suggested that employers train women, using programs that compared war industry jobs to tasks in the home. As more and more men, left to fight in the war women were famously needed as riveters in the aircraft, ordnance and shipbuilding industries. In these traditionally male work positions, women’s competence was dramatically demonstrated.

If there was a lower rate of pay for women in industrial jobs during the war, there was not much complaint about it. Everyone pitched in and did their part to help win the war. The problem is the lower pay rates started during the war carried over after the war was finished. The government had instructed industry to pay women at the same rates for jobs that had been done by men, if the same production quota level was met. In general, industry never complied with these instructions. Furthermore, as men returned from the war, most women were sent back home to be homemakers.

From the end of the war until the mid 1960’s ads in newspapers for job-listings had positions for men and women separated. This was the case even if the type of job was the same. The difference was the pay scale, with women significantly lower. That is why it is said the from 1950 until 1960 separate meant not equal, with women’s pay only 64 percent of a man’s pay for the same job or position.

On 10 June, 1963 the Equal Pay Act became law, to be effective one year later, making it illegal to pay a woman a lower rate for the same job if sex was the only basis for the difference. Thus, gender was no longer a cause for job refusal at the time of hiring. During the next ten years several amendments to the law were passed, resulting in more than $25 million paid to women who made claims for back pay.

Several important cases involving discrimination in hiring were decided in favor of women, but unfortunately, not much gain has been made in reducing the difference in pay. At the end of 1963, women’s pay gap had improved to the point that women were making almost 60 percent of a man’s pay, in the same job. But even at the end of 2011, women were only making slightly less than 80 percent of men in similar jobs.

Many excuses, or reasons, for the continuing wage gap are made by social scientists. The latest theory is the large number of boomer women working, even after retirement, in jobs where the pay gap has remained too big. Assuming this reasoning is correct, the gap should be reducing quite quickly as more and more of these women stop working entirely.

In 2009, the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act was signed, allowing victims of pay discrimination to file a claim for back wages, if their claim proves to be true. In conclusion, it can be said the women have made good progress in eliminating the job discrimination and wage gap problem, but much needs to be done. In the four decades, since the Equal Pay Act became law there is still a lot of work to be done to fulfill the promise of that law.

Sam is a blogger who is interested in financial matters and women’s rights. He is also a contributing blogger for TheCollegeCity.com.

Sources:

http://www.arts.gla.ac.uk/CAS/HISTORY/AmericaLevel2/Women/women.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male%E2%80%93female_income_disparity_in_the_United_States

http://www.lehighvalleylive.com/breaking-news/index.ssf/2012/05/us_sen_bob_casey_says_congress.html

 

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Mutual Guest Blogging With Fromgirltogirl

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Fromgirltogirl, will be doing mutual guest blogging with established bloggers for the 2012 new year. We did our first one  with an award nominated blogger, Sherryn Daniel.

Topics are focused on your specialization on Fromgirltogirl. In return, Fromgirltogirl would guest blog on your site about a topic revolving around any topic you prefer. I will put both articles through out my networks and SEO optimize them (including the one’s you use to get your site found on search engines). This will in turn create two back links to your site and my site as well, improving both of our Google rankings.

Here is an example from my first Mutual Guest Blog(my article i wrote for Sherryn is on fashion. Sherryn wrote an article revolving on girls overcoming jealousy and envy towards eachother she wrote for my site). Notice the permalinks and tags that bring attention to both our articles.

Holiday Fashion Fierce: How to Dress to Impress at Holiday Parties http://sherryndaniel.wordpress.com/2011/12/08/holiday-fashion-fierce-how-to-dress-to-impress-at-holiday-parties/ (written by me).

Sherryn Daniel’s Blog Did a guest blog entry for Fromgirltogirl about how women can combat their own Jealous behavior and start living again. https://www.fromgirltogirl.com/fromgirltogirl/2011/12/jealousy-how-women-can-stop-hating-and-start-living/. Not only do I offer an article but I will also put your bio info with Urls, on the front page of my website using About.me.

That way you increase your chances of being seen on Google searches.

My profile on About.me: http://about.me/fromgirltogirl LinkedIn

Company Announcements: Fromgirltogirl now has a formal company LinkedIn page.

We post announcements for companies and advertisements. We post our guest blogger links. We post student resumes. We will post you, if interested. http://www.linkedin.com/in/fromgirltogirl If anything interest you, don’t hesitate to contact me at  BrianaBooker@Fromgirltogirl.com  !

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Jealousy: How Women Can Stop Hating And Start Living

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By Sherryn Daniel

Jealousy is such an ugly trait and its cousin, Envy, is just as insidious (if not more). Jealousy and envy can mutilate women into emotionally disfigured trolls who seek to only envy and revenge each other.

Envy could be hurting that one woman who sings better than a room full of women. Envy can emotionally hurt a woman that has the best grades in her class. Jealousy can harm the emotional and physical state of a woman who wants to fight another woman that is interested in her man.You do not want envy and jealousy to rule your life purpose.

I hate to break it to you, but we as women all have the potential to be  jealous, envious people. Even you, have the potential to be a conniving, backstabbing, gremlin. Jealousy is an evil trait that flows into our bloodstreams. It is easily set off because of uncontrollable events and if it is not managed well, can turn a seemingly decent woman into her own worst nightmare.

You are definitely lying to me, as well as to your own friends, if you say you have never been jealous of anyone or have done anything harmful due to envy. We all have. We cannot wash our past sins with white lies. What is done is done.

As women we have been stereotyped as manipulative, conniving witches since the dawn of mankind. It is up to us women to come together and stop ruining our lives by behaving the way most men expect us to behave. Even though you cannot go back and erase your past sins due to jealousy, there are ways to combat it before you act upon it.

For starters, you need to be able to identify within yourself when you start acting jealous. Here is how to detect signs of jealousy:

  • Do you feel inferior to someone for her accomplishments (boyfriend, grades, friends, talents, etc)?
  • Do you feel threatened by a woman and try to belittle her accomplishments?
  • Do you try to manipulate someone because you do not believe the person deserves what  she worked hard to accomplish or gain?
  • Do you belittle, put down or condescend people because you feel threatened by them?
  • Do you react negatively to women doing well for themselves?

If you feel like this is true about you, then I want you to know that it is okay, you are human. It is hard to not change your feelings, even if you are a very confident woman. However, it is bad to act out on your jealous behavior and hurt someone. It is also bad to react to a jealous woman who is threatened by you. By doing so, you are giving her what she wants – a negative reaction.

Jealous women try to create emotional warfare amongst other women to lower them to their level.  For example, let us say you have an internship and a jealous woman envys you for always getting there on time, being well-liked and working hard. You know she is  jealous by the way she puts you down as an idiot in front of everyone and purposefully sabotages your projects. She also spreads malicious rumors about you behind your back. She may also be the same person who copies the way you talk, dress or act since she wishes she had what you have in life.

Sounds familiar?

It is easy to feel envious towards her as well and react negatively against her. That is what she wants you to do.

We have all been in the role of the victim and the perpetrator when it comes to the game of jealousy.

Here is  how we as women can combat our own jealous behaviors:

  • Do not compete with her. When you feel threatened by a peer, realize that you are not placed on earth to be like someone else. You are placed on earth to be you and to only compete with yourself to be the best person you can be.
  • You deserve the best. When you feel like you are at your lowest,write up 25 great qualities you have. Doing this exercise will not only distract you but pull you into a better mood.
  • Carry your pride with you. Always carry your 25 great qualities with you. When you feel like you are about to feel insecure about yourself, read the qualities.
  • Stop gossiping about other women. Remember that gossiping about someone and putting them down are clear signs of jealousy ( if  that person did not do anything vicious to you). Not only is it bad behavior but it also makes you into someone who does not deserve respect. You become a petty gossip. If you feel the need to put someone down, try to evaluate your own behavior.  Think.  Would you want someone to do that to you?
  • Do not behave the way she does. If someone is picking on you, do not react! If you do, she wins. Avoid the jealous hater and realize that she only wants what you have right now. Be proud and humble to be you.
  • Think positive. Just because someone is better than you at a skill does not  make you a useless person. There are many beautiful traits you have as a woman, always remember that.
  • Be kind. Just because you dislike the woman, does not mean you have to put her down for it. A confident person will look at the sunny side of a situation and be kind. You do not have to be friends with everyone(since different personality traits can clash) but remember that people are always watching and judging. Do not give them a reason to judge you when you already know you are a wonderful and kind person.
  • Get a hobby. Hobbies, sports and volunteering are great ways for women to develop a stronger sense of identity and feel more confident about their own abilities.
By following these tips,you can combat your own jealous behavior towards other women and you will single-handedly fight the stereotype that all women are manipulative, conniving, backstabbers to each other. Do not waste your time on jealous behavior. Have a better definition of your own life.

By Sherryn Daniel

Sherryn Daniel is a graduate student working on her Masters in Management. Aside from grad school, she maintains her widely popular website: www.sherryndaniel.com which has recently been nominated for a CBS Blog award and Baltimore sun Mobbies award.  Check out Sherryn’s website as well as well as www.fromgirltogirl.com for more guest entries by her.

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Fierce and fearless beauty of the week: ThoseGirlsarewild Shannon!

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Once again, we have spotted a fierce and fearless beauty in the community! Who is it?

Shannon Boodram , a founder of Thosegirlsarewild.com website and author of LAID !  As of 2022, Boodram is now married, a mom, and another baby on the way. Follow her via instagram @ShanBoody.

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Get your your curls popping like Shannon by checking out Loxa Beauty , which has some great anti-frizz, definition, and anti-humidity beauty products.

LAID is an anthology of more than 40 true stories of youth sharing their life changing sexual experiences. The narrators range from the ages 18 to 25! We recommend it for its hindsight and confidence for all to experience emotionally and physically healthy sex life-styles.

Recently she had a meeting with the Oprah Winfrey network about her new book!  It is definitely a must read on hookups, positive experiences, physical consequences, date rape and abstinence! To learn more about Shannon, Thosegirlsarewild and LAID check out the links below!

http://thosegirlsarewild.com/

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