My Empowerment flow: “Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.” Twain
The Year of The Weight Lifter
strongBy Briana Bookerv/strong I came to the realization that I am no longer 17 years old. My body is not as fast as it use to be. My body is not as slim as it use to be. But here I stand as the best woman I have ever been thus far. I guess it is true, looks are not everything. Although I am aging, I still want to keep up my health and appearance. I will never be someone that settles for letting myself go. I love myself. With that said, I would like to push myself to be better than my previous self by dedicating a few hours weekly to weight lifting. I am working on my core, which I notice is not as fit as it use to be. The love of my life ( or I would like to think he is the love of my life) thinks my new found curves are beautiful but I want the 17 year old me to travel with the wonderful woman I am becoming now. Who knows, I might just surpass the 17 year old me. I am up for the challenge. Stay tuned.
How To Make a Man Want to Commit: Be Selective
By Briana Booker
Besides having a positive attitude and a life of your own, how do you make your man want to commit to you?
Fromgirltogirl is starting a series on what makes a guy want to commit to you. We will provide you advice on how to get him there without convincing him or playing the mind games.
Tip #1 Show Him You are Selective.
When you show a man you are selective and not every man in the world can have you but the “one”, you draw him closer to you. Men love the thrill of the chase. They love working for something worth having. Sex with a girl that he cares nothing about is like a snack before a holiday feast. It is just for now but he is really anticipating the feast, the big reward.
You can start drawing a man in by saying honestly where you stand on your attitude about relationships. Do not whine about him and what he has not offered yet. You will scare him away by appearing too needy.
Say something around the lines of the following commit reference:
“It is your right to date more than one woman at a time. I understand, but I want you to know I am looking for an exclusive relationship with the right man. I want to find out if we are on the same page before taking our dating further.”
AND NO, IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING A GUY FOR LESS THAN A MONTH, please do not try the whole, I love you forever and a day. You have to commit to me.
These actions and words are controlling. Honestly, it takes 3 to 4 months on average for people to get out of the lust/ honeymoon stage of dating.
Notice in the statement you made no demands. Because you made no demands, you do not come off needy and unattractive. You are simply letting him know you have standards and you will stick to those standards. He NEEDS to meet those standards before YOU can decide to choose to be with him.
It is that simple. You are presenting him your needs and boundaries. Any man that truly wants you and does not want to lose you will respect that.
Trust me, the right man will ASK YOU for commitment. And best of all he will think it was his idea the whole time and that he won your affection and passion.
If this does not happen, you know where you stand with him. He just is not that into you but that does not mean that will not change down the line.
But if he does not change( and please do not wait around for change), keep the door to your soul and effort open for someone ready to give you what you need and more. This is one of the stepping stones to forming an amazing and committed relationship.
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To Find Love: Learn How To Manage Your Weaknesses
By Briana Booker
Weaknesses. We all have them. If we did not, we would be perfect, but I have not met any perfect person. Shoot, I am not perfect.
With that said, weakness is nothing to be ashamed about. You can find love even with having weaknesses. You just have to learn how to manage your weaknesses the proper way so that you have control of your destiny and can live a prosperous professional and personal life.
Acknowledging your weaknesses instead of hiding them is important. For example, I am stubborn and have a bad temper when I feel I have been wronged in a romantic relationship. My temper is the worse when I question why I was mistreated because most of the time I try to give my all to the one I am committed to having a happy and healthy relationship.What can I say? I am a loyal and stubborn Taurus.
No relationship is perfect but if you are given bread crumbs constantly in a relationship while you are offering a luxurious feast, you should find real love. No man or woman that truly loves you would treat you bad constantly…that is not love. That is controlling and abusive.
Living life, I realized losing my temper was not the way to be happy or resolve romantic dilemmas. I realized I needed to learn to work around the flaws of my partner and promote him to do the best for our relationship.
I can not change the past. I can not erase the males I gave a chance to build a healthy and worthy relationship. It is in the past. All I can do is live in the present.
I must live for the now and treat my new partner the right way. I need to work as much as he does to make things grow into something beyond my assumption that all men cheat or lie.
Not every man is a cheater or liar. Not every woman is a cheater or liar.
Once I stopped making assumptions and predictions about how my relationship would go with a man, that is when things started to look up. I took time to forgive the mistreat of my past to open my soul to someone I like to think is working to be worthy of me.
I can not predict the future. I can only live in the now. And right now, I am taking a leap of faith with the man present in my life. Even if he may or may not be the one, he is teaching me a great deal about myself and him. I am thankful to God for putting a man in my life driving me to grow into better not worse.
My best advice is take your time. Ask questions. Do not be quick tempered when you are confused or uncertain. Most guys, if mature, will try to resolve things with you when they have made mistakes in the relationship. Know your worth. Give him space sometimes to be himself. He will return, if he truly cares for you. You can never keep a man away from a woman he truly loves as much as he loves his life.
And if you need help, here are a few tips from my relationshipExaminer Column http://www.examiner.com/dc-in-washington-dc/how-to-make-your-girl-smile ! Print it out for your partner or subscribe. Suggest the tips to him or her. Use it as a guide to build a better relationship with your partner.
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Why DSW is Fabulous And Fierce
Are you wondering why Fromgirltogirl loves Designer Shoe Warehouse (DSW)? If yes, I am here to tell you why!
Fromgirltogirl loves DSW because of its great customer service and care for its customers! Oh, and the classy and stylish selection of shoes!
Just this week, DSW surprised us with a FREE DSW Fanatic Frenzy gift for the holiday season! DSW gave us a fabulous tote, that’s valued at $28!
No, We did not get it because we are amazing and fierce( although, deep down inside we know our readers and us are amazing and fierce,all day and everyday)! We got our great gift because we spread our shoe lover on Facebook.
You can do the same by liking DSW on http://www.facebook.com/sctt.woods#!/DSW !
DSW has great giveaways all holiday season and beyond! Join on the fun and style! And become a DSW member for even more exclusive deals!
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Never Settle for a Fun Time
I do not need a fun time. I never did. What is a fun time? When a guy wants sex with you without having to commit to you. They also use the term hanging out. If you settle for that, you will always end up empty handed. It is never the way to a man’s heart. A way to a man’s heart is respecting yourself. I need a man that values himself me in life. As Steve Jobs would say, never settle for less than what you want. This is the woman I am now. 🙂 – Briana Booker
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The Black Women Spring
Looks like the black women spring has begun. It is about time we stop thinking we deserve less than other women. We are just as wonderful. Stop tolerating non-sense. -Briana Booker, Founder of Fromgirltogirl
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Breaking the Chains of Poverty: 2011 GIRL EFFECT BLOGGING CAMPAIGN
By Briana Booker
If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, there is a way to break from the chains of misery poverty forces on billions of people in the world. Yes, we often blame corporate world policy and conduct for why we can not put bread on the table. We often blame corrupt governments for our lack of good quality of life. But why have not we turned our fingers to point at ourselves?
When we give ourselves power, we control our own destiny. What are we waiting for? Although many of us are living in poverty, we are at a cross-road where we can change the course of our future for the better. How?
The answer is in the Girl Effect. When we educate our girls we give them, our boys, moms, dads, and entire communities the chance to escape the injustices of poverty for good. When women are educated,they obtain higher paying jobs. They obtain better health care. They obtain the ability to give their families and themselves the ability to live out dreams.
Here are some cool facts, just in case you are skeptical of the power of the Girl Effect, via a book, published by Cambridge Press, called Mothers at Work: Effects on Children’s Well-being by Lois Hoffman and Lise Youngblade, with Rebekah Coley, Allison Fuligni, and Donna Kovacs:
-Daughters of employed mothers have been found to have higher academic achievement, greater career success, more nontraditional career choices, and greater occupational commitment.
– Daughters of employed mothers have been found to be more independent, particularly in interaction with their peers in a school setting, and to score higher on socioemotional adjustment measures. This gives girls the ability to become outstanding leaders in the community.
-Daughters with employed mothers, across the different groups, show more positive assertiveness as rated by teachers (that is, they participate in class discussions, they ask questions when instructions are unclear, they are comfortable in leadership positions), and they show less acting-out behavior. They are less shy, more independent and have a higher sense of efficacy.
-Working-class boys also show more positive social adjustment when their mothers are employed, and true for both one-parent and two-parent families.
-Research results suggest that most families accommodate to the mother’s employment and in doing so provide a family environment that works well.
Read details on the study : http://parenthood.library.wisc.edu/Hoffman/Hoffman.html .
Join the campaign! Write about The Girl Effect at your blog this week, October 4-11, 2011! Link up your post http://www.taramohr.com/girleffectposts/ .
If you support Fromgirltogirl, you support Girl Effect as well.Learn about the big picture here: http://www.girleffect.org/learn/the-big-picture .
Get Ripe. Get Bold. Get Excellence. Check out the video below. Change the course of all our futures for the better, one girl at a time!
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Hustle-Swag:Beyoncé – Live at Glastonbury 2011 HD COMPLETE
Get on Beyonce’s level! Beyonce is a superb performer and artist! Fierce! Hard work does pay off girls! Never think otherwise, get on your #Hustle-Swag ! Spread the fierce!