Dating with conflicting political views and how to cope : eHarmony CEO shares

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Love and politics. Will they get the best of you? Learn how to cope when your date as different political views from yours.

Have a dating profile on eHarmony and wonder whether your political affiliation matters? If you’re looking to date women, it matters. There has been a 43% increase in women who feel like they need to make their political affiliations known. eHarmony’s CEO Grant Langston recently pulled together some practical tips on how to cope when dating someone with political differences. Here’s the scoop:

Grant Langston Eharmony CEO 2017

How to navigate this unprecedented political time while on a first date:

A first date could easily be derailed by conversations about politics. eHarmony recommends that you not make your first date a debate, but just a happy, high-level,  getting to know you meet-up.  In other words, keep it lighthearted and positive and don’t discuss details about the ex on a first date, the same holds true for any strong political opinions.

Get clear with and know where you stand in the political arena. 

If you are passionate about your political party, and it is important to you that a partner also be aligned in that way, it is best to learn the information sooner than later. By date 3 at the latest. Do not invest too much time into someone if you know this is a deal breaker.

“Everything about this guy is amazing, but he loves Trump. And I am not a fan. What do I do?” 

Assuming this is not a deal breaker for you, try to really go into a conversation with an open mind-set about why your date feels the way he does. Is it a matter of backing his policies, or does he just like the President’s personality? The more information you have, the better you can make a decision about your date’s judgment and values – and whether they align with yours.

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Can Obama Care truly offer universal healthcare in America?


In the last days of President Obama’s time in office, he is fighting for health law as republicans stand firm on their vow to repeal his Affordable Care Act (Obama Care). What is the future of the Affordable Care Act? No one can really say. President Obama’s signature health care plan is being defended by the democrats on Capitol Hill while President-elect Donald J. Trump warns Republicans to let Obama care “fall of its own weight.”

The Republicans want to repeal Obama Care altogether while the Democrats want to find ways to improve the Affordable Care Act – they even have a slogan: “make America sick again” to get public support on keeping Obama Care in tact. By a vote of 51 to 48, the Senate is taking the first step to repeal the Affordable Care Act via a budget resolution or blueprint that would clear a path for legislation repealing of major provisions of Obama’s signature health care law. And next week the House is expected to take up a budget resolution. Republicans are hoping the Trump administration acts on a series of executive orders that will make it easier to repeal the Affordable Care Act but it will be hard to repeal Obama Care because removing parts of the law could put the health care market in chaos.

If Republicans want to repeal Obama Care, they need to offer Americans an effective replacement and show the added value that replacement can offer citizens. 20 million poor and working-class Americans now take advantage of Obama Care to make sure they have health insurance. Read Why It Will Be Hard to Repeal Obama for more insight on the situation.

Two components of Obama Care Trump would like to keep are:

– Affordable healthcare for Americans with pre-existing conditions
– Let children stay on their parents’ policies until age 26

While Trump may support getting rid of cost-sharing subsidies and contraception coverage. The problem at hand now with the Affordable Care Act is that young, healthy people may not necessarily want to give to the insurance pool because they may feel it’s a waste of money if they are not going to go regularly to medical and dental appointments. The Obama care subsidies and the mandate right now need young, healthy people to help pay for older, sicker customers. If they did not give to Obama care, insurance companies would have to raise premiums and that could make millions Americans under the health care plan be priced out of insurance.

Fromgirltogirl’s thoughts on improving Obama Care

The only way any system, including a universal #healthcare system, becomes favorable is offering added value to all parties affected. In other words #insurance companies, #healthcare providers and #patients must feel like they are winning within the system. It’s harder to completely replace a system than make adjustments to improve a system. Regardless of industry, there’s one thing everyone likes to hear and see: a problem resolved or a system improved. If you can’t solve problems or improve a system, you’ll struggle to find support and won’t make progress on goals. A great way to find problems/resolve them is to focus on the user experience. Most valuable information you can have: complaints because knowing complaints can help anyone find creative ways to resolve issues. If Obama care can help Insurance companies keep down cost cross the system, more Americans will buy into the market place. This buy-in will make Obama Care profitable for insurance companies and health care providers while making healthcare affordable by the year for buyers. The big challenge is how to get to this point. Send commentary to Fromgirltogirl about your thoughts on how to improve the healthcare system and truly give universal healthcare to Americans.

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NASW Statement on Donald J. Trump Election as 45th U.S. President

As of this week, the American people know Donald J. Trump as the  45th U.S. President. For some Americans this is disappointing news for others it is the best week ever. Fortunately, organizations such as the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), the largest professional social work association in the world (with more than 125,000 members) , is urging President-Elect Donald Trump to help heal divisiveness, trauma from his discriminatory statements regarding women, people of color and immigrants. At the same time, Americans acknowledge we must work with the new administration to address pressing issues of the day, including justice reforms, racial and gender inequality, access to health care for all, and helping more U.S. citizens to achieve economic self-sufficiency and stability.

The NASW Code of Ethics makes clear the importance of social justice. NASW cannot support any efforts to marginalize or oppress any group of people, and the organization will always work to assure that human rights extend to everyone. Moreover, social workers continue to strongly advocate for the country’s most vulnerable populations. As of this week, President-Elect Trump has said he is committed to restoring economic prosperity to the United States, helping more Americans afford care for their children and relatives who are older adults, and providing more services to our nation’s brave veterans and their families. The goal is to build on these commonalities to move the country forward while holding Mr. Trump accountable for his promises. This includes Mr. Trump and his administration healing the divisiveness and trauma his campaign has caused among some communities and populations.  NASW is ready to help ensure these actions are done in a socially responsible and unifying manner.

NASW firmly supports the nation’s efforts to move forward in a positive way that acknowledges the inherent dignity and worth of all people.  Specifically, NASW will work to ensure that President-Elect Trump appoints justices to the U.S. Supreme Court and judges to the Circuit Courts of Appeals and lower Federal District Courts who come from diverse gender and ethnic backgrounds and will protect the rights of all citizens.

Additionally, NASW congratulates Democrat nominee Hillary Rodham Clinton for her years of service. Mrs. Clinton has a long history of working for positive social change in areas of importance to social workers, including health care reform; the Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP); HIV/AIDS prevention and treatment; reproductive rights for women; racial justice and equal rights for people who are LGBT. Because at the end of the day everyone deserves the chance to pursue and achieve their dreams.

As Mrs. Clinton said in her concession speech, “let’s do all we can to keep advancing the causes and values we all hold dear; making our economy work for everyone not just those at the top, protecting our country and protecting our planet and breaking down all the barriers that hold any American back from achieving their dreams.”

About the National Association of Social Workers (NASW)

The National Association of Social Workers (NASW), in Washington, DC, is the largest membership organization of professional social workers with more than 125,000 members. It promotes, develops, and protects the practice of social work and social workers. NASW also seeks to enhance the well-being of individuals, families, and communities through its advocacy.

 

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Here is where President-elect Donald Trump stands on 75 policy issues

President Trump standpoint on 75 policy issues
Find out where President-elect Donald Trump stands on 75 issues, according to his own statements.

It happened. Donald Trump will be the next President of the United States and it is important that the American people know where he stands on issues that will impact their lives. ProCon.org has spent the last year finding President-elect Donald Trump’s  statements on 75 policy issues from death penalty (pro) and same-sex marriage (con) to fracking (pro) and oil company subsidies (con) to medical marijuana (pro) and closing Guantanamo (con). ProCon’s  staff of professional researchers have scoured articles, speeches, interviews, transcripts to help Americans get a better understand of the mindset of Trump. Here is where Trump stands on 75 issues according to his own statements. If he changed his position on an issue, ProCon.org includes his most current statement along with his prior statement(s).

This research was compiled as part of our nonpartisan 2016 presidential election coverage at ProCon.org. They did the same extensive research on statements from Hillary ClintonGary Johnson, and Jill Stein. You can compare all their views in a side-by-side candidate chart. This comparison chart was viewed more than 3 million times this election season.

 About ProCon.org

ProCon.org is a 501c3 nonprofit educational resource that serves 25 million people annually with professionally researched pros, cons, and related information on 50+ controversial issues from immigration and marijuana to health care and minimum wage. The organization’s research has been referenced by 24 international governments, 34 state governments, 500+ books, 2,000+ media entities (ABC to Wired, MSNBC to Fox, Forbes to Washington Post), and by educators in more than 8,300 schools in all 50 states and 87 countries.  With more than 12,000 pages of highly curated content, ProCon.org provides a platform for people to question information, evaluate opposing views, and debate them in a respectful way. Their innovative, digital education website has become a leading source for unbiased information and civic education for students, educators, legislators, journalists, and the general public.

In this recent election cycle, they provided some of the most comprehensive and popular research on ballot issues from marijuana and minimum wage to death penalty and gun control.

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Allied Progress makes Trump accountable for his promise to protect Americans

During President-elect Donal J. Trump’s campaign,  he promised to protect hard-working Americans from big banks, Wall Street, and powerful special interests that politicians cater to. Will Trump as President live up to those promises? The group Allied Progress, a nationwide nonprofit grass root organization that uses hard-hitting research and creative campaigns to hold powerful special interests accountable and empower hardworking Americans, has the intention to make Trump keep his word with accountability checks. Allied Progress director Karl Frisch made a statement about Trump keeping his promise:

“Among other things, President-elect Trump’s campaign was built on the notion that big banks, financial institutions, powerful special interests, and the corrupt politicians that do their bidding have taken advantage of America’s working class. On this we can agree. Unfortunately, as is all too often the case, those who gain power can become captive to the very special interests that they once derided.”
In the weeks and months ahead, Allied Progress will hold the President-elect’s transition and eventual administration accountable for its cabinet and staffing decisions as well as the policies it pursues. The following questions will help show if Trump will follow through with this promises:
  1. Who will President-elect Trump appoint to his cabinet?
  2. Who will he hire to carry out his agenda?
  3. What will Trump do to government agencies responsible for holding big banks and financial institutions accountable?

At the end of the day, Americans hope the next President will help millions of Americans who are struggling to get by. Can President-elect Trump help the American people? Follow Allied Progress on Facebook and Instagram to see how he is held accountable and whether he will abandon his call for real change and instead favor powerful special interests he lambasted on the campaign trail.

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Ed Asner Raves that ‘Free and Equal’s ‘ Presidential Debate gave Election Dignity

Many Americans believe this presidential campaign will go down as one of the most negative presidential campaigns in US history but actor Ed Asner gives rave reviews to the Free and Equal Foundation’s Presidential Debate for the People, that took place in Boulder, Colorado. “Rocky” Roque De La Fuente (the Reform Party’s and the American Delta Party’s nominee), Darrell Castle (Constitution Party), and Gloria LaRiva (Party for Socialism and Liberation) all participated. Gary Johnson and Jill Stein, who took part in 2012, and Evan McMullin were no-shows.

The debate, which was co-moderated by Asner reached an estimated 150 million people through online steaming and media channels.  “You gave this election dignity,” said the iconic actor and activist to the candidates at the conclusion of the event. Here is the full debate:

The People’s Presidential Debate is unique in that Free and Equal invites all candidates who gain ballot access in enough states to reach 15% of the electoral vote. Free and Equal Co-Founder, Christina Tobin, was ecstatic about how the event debate shaped up.  “We’re excited to announce our 2017 United We Stand Fest CONCERT in Colorado next year which will be the kick-off for our 2018 United We Stand Fest Concert University Tour! Our focus is to inspire people to replace political parties with Independent accountable candidates targeting 2018 Congressional elections.” The debate was the highlight of the United We Stand Festival that featured a host of speakers and performances by musicians including Ky-Mani Marley, Flobots, former Attorney General Ramsey Clark, Spragga Benz, and Earth Guardians.

About the Free & Equal Elections Foundation:

The Free & Equal Elections Foundation is a 501(c)(3) non-profit, non-partisan grassroots organization, whose mission is to broaden electoral choices through education and direct positive action.

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Twitter Usage of Trump Vs. Hillary Clinton |SHSU Research

During the second presidential debate on Oct. 9, candidates Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton were asked about Twitter and, specifically, their discipline in using the social media tool. “Tweeting happens to be a modern form of communication,” Trump said. “I’m not unproud of it, to be honest with you.” Twitter as a topic of discussion in a presidential debate shows how far it has come since President Barack Obama started using social media as a way to engage with voters in his 2008 presidential campaign. Eight years later, Twitter has blown up as a powerful tool for politicians to immediately get their messages across to the public and to control, and sometimes fix, their images. But as politicians turn to Twitter resource, the effect and the messaging is still unquantified, which is why in 2012, Sam Houston State University political science associate professor Heather Evans set out to examine the effect of social media in campaigning.

Evans and one of her classes started researching Twitter involvement with the U.S. House races by following all of the candidates to examine what politicians tweeted. With the current presidential election, Evans and two students are continuing this research to see if there is any gender differences in what Clinton and Trump are tweeting. The trio have been working since June to collect tweets from Clinton and Trump and plan to continue the research until election night. After four months, Evans, junior political science major Kayla Brown and senior political science major Tiffany Wimberly have discovered that Clinton’s campaign uses Twitter in a variety of ways, including tweeting about more political issues than Trump and focusing more on her opponent than he does.

“When I sat down with all this data and ran some basic statistics, the differences automatically popped out,” Evans said. “She is tweeting more than he is. She is attacking him more than he is her; he is attacking everyone, and she is not attacking anyone else except him. They are tweeting in this completely opposite way.” Evans said she was not surprised by the negativity of Clinton’s tweets.

“Clinton’s attacking nature is explained with the ‘Out Party’ hypothesis. In a book by David Karpf called ‘The Move On Effect,’ he explained how the outside party draws to any type of new media to get a leg up on their opponent,” Evans said. “The underdog attacks more to get people’s attention.”

Evans said many women running for political office use this tactic, whether they are the incumbent or are running for the first time.  “I believe it is because they see themselves as outsiders,” Evans said. According to Evans, the most unexpected thing that she has found in her research is that neither Clinton nor Trump is tweeting about the issues more.

“I would think that Trump would be copying whatever Clinton is doing,” Evans said. “If she is talking about issues and he wants to be opposing her, he could talk about the same issue in a different way or take a different position. I was surprised by the lack of issue position on his page, compared to her.”

Evans said Trump’s tweets have focused on terrorism and immigration—and about 10 percent of his tweets involve criticizing the media—while Clinton has focused on “male” and “female” issues.

“‘Female issues’ are traditionally defined as issues that disproportionately affect women as a group more than men, issues like education, healthcare, welfare, abortion, domestic violence, and equality,” Evans said. “‘Male issues’ are traditionally economic in nature—taxes, budget—or foreign policy—war, terrorism. Gun control is also a ‘male issue.’”And despite all of the data that shows that Clinton is tweeting more, Trump tends to get more media attention.

“When I tell people that she is tweeting double what he is tweeting, they are all shocked,” Evans said. “They are only hearing about him. He is getting more air time than she is. She is not really getting any.” This could be because Clinton’s Twitter account is handled largely by a team, while Trump has a more active hand in his account.

“Research is showing that if you look at all the tweets he is sending, half of the tweets are from an iPhone and half on them are from an Android,” Evans said. “The tweets coming from the Android are him, and the Android tweets are those that we would define as ‘off-the-cuff,’ 3 a.m. tweets.  The iPhone tweets (from his staff) are professional.”

This fall, the team has incorporated an interview treatment into their Twitter research, through which Evans hopes to find out some of the reasons Trump may be acting the way he does.

“We might be able to see if the interviewers are treating him differently, which is leading to why he is being so negative,” Evans said.

Evans said the research results might be different if Trump wasn’t running.

“He is not acting like everybody else,” Evans said. “Whereas other politicians will talk about their policy stances on multiple things that are before Congress, he is very, very different. If you go and look at Marco Rubio, or if you want to go back and grab tweets from John McCain in 2008, their tweets were very different than Trump’s.”

The work may be long and tiring, but Evans said she also finds it amusing and educational for students. It’s also of interest internationally, having been highlighted several times by the London School of Economics.

“I enjoy working with students on these projects because they get to see political science in action,” Evans said. “Students begin to make connections between what we are reading and what we are seeing on Twitter.  In my research project with Tiffany and Kayla, we are pushing the discipline forward regarding the gendered use of Twitter in campaigns.

“It also is really fun research,” Evans said. “I like reading and analyzing the tweets. The students really enjoy it too.”

Highlights:

•   Trump and Clinton use Twitter in “completely opposite way(s)”

•   Clinton tweets more than Trump; Trump’s tweets get more attention

•   Clinton attacks Trump more; Trump attacks “everyone”

•   Trump focuses on terrorism, immigration and the media; Clinton focuses on both “male” and “female” issues

•   Clinton’s Twitter account is handled largely by her team; Trump plays a larger role in his account

•   Trump tweets with an Android; his team uses an iPhone

•   Women candidates attack their opponent more via Twitter, as explained by the “Out Party” hypothesis

 

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Co-founder of UltraViolet Action comments on Donald Trump’s new campaign CEO’s 1996 domestic violence charge

One of many nightmares a woman may have in her lifetime is becoming a victim of domestic violence. Sometimes it happens in an interaction with a family member or a close friend, other times it’s a romantic partner. And it’s easy to feel trapped, helpless in a situation when the domestic violence happens by the hands of someone a woman he taught will protect and love her.

Recently, POLITICO reported that Donald Trump’s new campaign CEO, Stephen K. Bannon, was charged with domestic violence, battery and dissuading a witness in 1996.  The charges were eventually dropped due to witness unavailability. In reaction to the news, Nita Chaudhary, co-founder of UltraViolet Action, a national women’s advocacy organization, issued a statement on feeling troubled but sadly not surprised that Donald Trump’s campaign is ran by a man accused of domestic violence.

Chaudhary said, “First it was Corey Lewandowski who physically assaulted a female reporter. Then it was Roger Ailes, a serial sexual predator. Now it is Steve Bannon.” Chaudhary believe by Trump surrounding himself with men like Lewandowski, Ailes and Bannon, he is showing women, and all voters, exactly what kind of person he is and exactly what kind of President he’ll be. More over Chaudhary stated “As Senator Elizabeth Warren has said, personnel is policy. The hiring, and standing by, of men who have records of abusing women once again shows how he is unfit to be President.”

About UltraViolet Action: The online community of over 1,000,000 women and men supports those who want to take collective action to expose and fight sexism in the public sector, private sector and the media. You can find out more at WeAreUltraViolet.org.

 

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