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President Obama Signs NDAA
strongBy/strong strongBriana/strong strongBooker/strong NDAA, the National Defense Authorization Act was passed the last day of 2011 by President Obama for the 2012 fiscal year. It means anyone seen as a terrorist suspect can be held indefinitely and without trial. I have mixed feeling about the act because I feel it is an invasion on freedom. Yes, perhaps safety might increase but who and what is a terrorist. A terrorist can come in any shape or form. If you are a terrorist suspect on American soil, you may not get a trial at all. What happens if you are not guilty at all? You can be at the wrong place at the wrong time. Anyone can go to jail. Think about it. strongUpdate/strong : President still allows American Citizens planning or in coalitions suspected of terrorism to have a trial. Everyone else, good luck. Congress wanted a harsher defense bill but President Obama signed NDAA.
Happy New Year 2012
2011 was full of ups and downs. I graduated school having no job to having a job. Went from having a cheater to having someone loving in my life. Went to White House and back. Life works in mysterious ways( will discuss my lessons from the challenges I faced in later articles). For now, I am sharing with you my bottle of blessings and prayers. I used a wine bottle my loved ones have consumed. I put piece of my praying plant in the bottle has well as blessing I have faith will come in 2012. It is uplifting to believe in better days. I hope you will join me. Happy New Year! – Briana Booker, Fromgirltogirl.com Founderbr /br /a href=https://www.fromgirltogirl.com/fromgirltogirl/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/20111231-164736.jpgimg src=https://www.fromgirltogirl.com/fromgirltogirl/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/20111231-164736.jpg alt=20111231-164736.jpg class=alignnone size-full //a
He Is Not Your Best Girlfriend. He Is Your Man.
By Briana Booker
In recent months, my thoughts on men have changed for the better. I have always been taught to be suspicious of every man. I have been told from men and women alike, that men “ain’t shit.” Although some men “ain’t shit” others, even with imperfections, are worth lowering the steel walls we, as women, build to protect ourselves.
Those steel walls can prevent us from finding a good man. I would know. I use to keep any intimate partner at a distance to keep “control” of the situation and protect my emotions.
Caring about someone can make you vulnerable if you have no idea where you stand with the person. You learn where you stand by communicating with your intimate partner.
Men and women communicate very differently from each other. The man in my life has taught me that we are different but also the same. Both are looking for the right one. We are also working on personal growth and our careers. Previously, that threaten me in relationships but to see this man grow as an individual is honestly beautiful to me. I want to look out for him. He goes out his way to protect me, even from myself.
An example of this was when I was mad at him not doing something when I wanted him to do it. He instantly asked me why I was mad. I honestly did not have a good reason to be mad besides not getting my way about something petty.
That is when I remembered a few weeks ago we promised each other we would not go to sleep angry at each other as an action to build the strength of our relationship. I was the one who requested this action be done in our relationship and here I was trying to make an argument over something petty.
This is when I realized my actions matter to someone beyond myself. It was a scary thought but at the same time I felt my soul smile. I kissed him good night and he opened the door. I thought once I got to my car he would have just forgotten about me and went back to what he was doing in his home. Instead I saw him watching me from the window at the front door. I texted him “Why are you looking out the window?” He replies back while still looking through the window: “Ha. Just Checking to see if you were ok since you didn’t move.” I told him I could take care of myself. Again, I was falling into old habits from bad relationships with my “I don’t need you” persona I mastered in unhealthy relationships.
But then I realize, he is not my past but my present. So I just smiled and he checked up on me when I got home as well. It felt good to not only be wanted but that I am cared for by someone who chose me.
I realized the best thing to do is live in the now. Do not linger in the past. And do not think too far in the future. If we are meant to be, then we will be. We just can not jump to conclusions and keep communicating, even if we fear the unknown.
I was bruised but I was never broken. He shows me it is still okay to bring out the best in me.
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Jealousy: How Women Can Stop Hating And Start Living
By Sherryn Daniel
Jealousy is such an ugly trait and its cousin, Envy, is just as insidious (if not more). Jealousy and envy can mutilate women into emotionally disfigured trolls who seek to only envy and revenge each other.
Envy could be hurting that one woman who sings better than a room full of women. Envy can emotionally hurt a woman that has the best grades in her class. Jealousy can harm the emotional and physical state of a woman who wants to fight another woman that is interested in her man.You do not want envy and jealousy to rule your life purpose.
I hate to break it to you, but we as women all have the potential to be jealous, envious people. Even you, have the potential to be a conniving, backstabbing, gremlin. Jealousy is an evil trait that flows into our bloodstreams. It is easily set off because of uncontrollable events and if it is not managed well, can turn a seemingly decent woman into her own worst nightmare.
You are definitely lying to me, as well as to your own friends, if you say you have never been jealous of anyone or have done anything harmful due to envy. We all have. We cannot wash our past sins with white lies. What is done is done.
As women we have been stereotyped as manipulative, conniving witches since the dawn of mankind. It is up to us women to come together and stop ruining our lives by behaving the way most men expect us to behave. Even though you cannot go back and erase your past sins due to jealousy, there are ways to combat it before you act upon it.
For starters, you need to be able to identify within yourself when you start acting jealous. Here is how to detect signs of jealousy:
- Do you feel inferior to someone for her accomplishments (boyfriend, grades, friends, talents, etc)?
- Do you feel threatened by a woman and try to belittle her accomplishments?
- Do you try to manipulate someone because you do not believe the person deserves what she worked hard to accomplish or gain?
- Do you belittle, put down or condescend people because you feel threatened by them?
- Do you react negatively to women doing well for themselves?
If you feel like this is true about you, then I want you to know that it is okay, you are human. It is hard to not change your feelings, even if you are a very confident woman. However, it is bad to act out on your jealous behavior and hurt someone. It is also bad to react to a jealous woman who is threatened by you. By doing so, you are giving her what she wants – a negative reaction.
Jealous women try to create emotional warfare amongst other women to lower them to their level. For example, let us say you have an internship and a jealous woman envys you for always getting there on time, being well-liked and working hard. You know she is jealous by the way she puts you down as an idiot in front of everyone and purposefully sabotages your projects. She also spreads malicious rumors about you behind your back. She may also be the same person who copies the way you talk, dress or act since she wishes she had what you have in life.
Sounds familiar?
It is easy to feel envious towards her as well and react negatively against her. That is what she wants you to do.
We have all been in the role of the victim and the perpetrator when it comes to the game of jealousy.
Here is how we as women can combat our own jealous behaviors:
- Do not compete with her. When you feel threatened by a peer, realize that you are not placed on earth to be like someone else. You are placed on earth to be you and to only compete with yourself to be the best person you can be.
- You deserve the best. When you feel like you are at your lowest,write up 25 great qualities you have. Doing this exercise will not only distract you but pull you into a better mood.
- Carry your pride with you. Always carry your 25 great qualities with you. When you feel like you are about to feel insecure about yourself, read the qualities.
- Stop gossiping about other women. Remember that gossiping about someone and putting them down are clear signs of jealousy ( if that person did not do anything vicious to you). Not only is it bad behavior but it also makes you into someone who does not deserve respect. You become a petty gossip. If you feel the need to put someone down, try to evaluate your own behavior. Think. Would you want someone to do that to you?
- Do not behave the way she does. If someone is picking on you, do not react! If you do, she wins. Avoid the jealous hater and realize that she only wants what you have right now. Be proud and humble to be you.
- Think positive. Just because someone is better than you at a skill does not make you a useless person. There are many beautiful traits you have as a woman, always remember that.
- Be kind. Just because you dislike the woman, does not mean you have to put her down for it. A confident person will look at the sunny side of a situation and be kind. You do not have to be friends with everyone(since different personality traits can clash) but remember that people are always watching and judging. Do not give them a reason to judge you when you already know you are a wonderful and kind person.
- Get a hobby. Hobbies, sports and volunteering are great ways for women to develop a stronger sense of identity and feel more confident about their own abilities.
By following these tips,you can combat your own jealous behavior towards other women and you will single-handedly fight the stereotype that all women are manipulative, conniving, backstabbers to each other. Do not waste your time on jealous behavior. Have a better definition of your own life.
By Sherryn Daniel
Sherryn Daniel is a graduate student working on her Masters in Management. Aside from grad school, she maintains her widely popular website: www.sherryndaniel.com which has recently been nominated for a CBS Blog award and Baltimore sun Mobbies award. Check out Sherryn’s website as well as well as www.fromgirltogirl.com for more guest entries by her.
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