40% of men dream about having sex with a friend

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Sex dreams are fairly common amongst Americans, allowing them to live out their wildest fantasies in their head while sleeping. As the clocks go back at 2:00am on the 6th of November, giving people an extra hour in bed, provides more opportunities to play out scenarios that are unlikely to happen in real life.

Survey reveals 77% of Americans dream about sex, with the most common dreams involving orgasms and sex with friends

According to a new Lovehoney.com , a sexual wellness brand, survey … 77% of Americans are having sex in their dreams, with common topics ranging from sex with friends, co-workers, and teachers.

The full piece can be found here, including all the juicy details about which cities have the most naughty dreams and which star signs are getting up to no good in their sleep.

Whether it’s getting hot and heavy with a stranger or enjoying sex with a long-time friend, sex dreams are seemingly a common phenomenon for a lot of Americans. Whilst most people know that they like when having sex, erotic dreams are an opportunity to act out our wildest fantasies in secret – meaning they often play into our guilty pleasures. For some, sex dreams are a way to be their truest self, until the alarm interrupts!

With so many different types of people on the planet, each with their own likes and dislikes, it’s safe to assume that the things they dream about in private differ dramatically.

 Lovehoney.com surveyed over 2,000 Americans over the age of 18 to find out what they’re really up to when they’re dreaming.

The survey discovered that over three-quarters (77%) of Americans have dreamt about sex at least once, and that, whilst it is slightly more common for men to have sex dreams (85%), the gap is fairly small and women also often dream about sex (75%). 

Most Americans have sex dreams 2-3 times per week

The survey found that those who had previously experienced a sex dream tend to have them 2-3 times a week (12%). 

These dreams seem to be more prevalent in certain age groups. The majority of respondents dreaming about sex 2-3 times a week were aged between 25-34 (14%) but only 4% of those aged over 55 were dreaming about sex multiple times per week. Instead, the majority in this age group experienced sex dreams once a month (12%).

Las Vegas & San Diego are the cities with the most sex dreams

When it comes to dreaming about sex, it seems that certain cities are more likely to have residents experiencing frisky dreams compared to others. 

The survey found that Las Vegas and San Diego are the two US cities with the highest frequency of sex dreams, with residents in these cities having dreams about sex around 10 times per month on average. In close second, Charleston residents had sex dreams 9 times per month.

In contrast, Wichita was the city with the least amount of steamy dreams, with residents in this city only dreaming about sex twice a month on average. Similarly, residents living in Oklahoma City, Seattle, and Milwaukee are also less likely to dream about sex, with residents in these cities averaging at around 2 sex dreams per month.

The top 5 cities for sex dreams

  1. Las Vegas (10 dreams per month)
  2. San Diego (10 dreams per month)
  3. Charleston (9 dreams per month)
  4. Austin (8 dreams per month)
  5. Salt Lake City (8 dreams per month)

40% of men dream about having sex with a friend

When it comes to the subject of these steamy dreams, this differs a lot between people. Dreaming about intense orgasms (37%), experienced by 43% of women and 29% of men.

Sensual nighttime fantasies, with other common dream topics including having sex with a friend (35%) – which was significantly more common in men (40%) than women (32%). In similar veins, sleeping with an ex partner was also common (34%), alongside sex with a complete stranger (32%).

Dreams about taboo topics seem to be more common in men than women, with 24% of men dreaming about sleeping with a work colleague, compared to just 10% of women. Men were also twice as likely to dream about having sex with a subordinate at work (14%), compared to just 7% of women. 

Sexual fantasies, commonly explored in pornography, are also common in dreams, with 18% of men dreaming about having sex with a teacher, whilst only 7% of women experienced these dreams. Shockingly, 9% of men and 2% of women had even experienced sexual dreams about their students.

Cancerians, Leos & Scorpios are most likely to have sex dreams

Whilst star signs / astrological signs aren’t for everyone, certain astrology signs are more predisposed to sex dreams.

The difference between sex-dream frequency by star sign was relatively small, however, there were certainly some signs that experienced kinky dreams more than others.

The star signs most likely to have sexual dreams are Cancer (82%), Leo (80%), Scorpio (79%), and Aries (79%). 

In contrast, the sign least-likely to dream about sex is Saggitarius (70%).

Top 5 star signs dreaming about sex

  1. Cancer (82%)
  2. Leo (80%)
  3. Scorpio (79%)
  4. Aries (79%)
  5. Gemini (78%)

Dr Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and research fellow at The Kinsey Institute also commented on why people may fantasize about certain topics in the bedroom and explains why sex dreams are completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of; “Normalizing diversity in sexual fantasies allows us to set our minds at ease, to feel more confident exploring and communicating about our sexuality, and to experience more pleasure.”

Find the full research here:

 https://www.lovehoney.com/blog/what-do-our-sex-dreams-mean.html 

About Lovehoney

Established in 2002 in Bath, Lovehoney Group Ltd designs, manufactures and distributes its own branded and third party pleasure products globally with over 150 products developed in house each year. It is the UK’s biggest online adult retailer with 8 other websites globally including; France, Germany, Spain, EU, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand. Its 300 strong team is based across the UK, USA and Australia and serves its 2.2m global customer base. Over the last six years overseas sales have grown from £12m to £56m, an overall growth of 365%. In addition, the percentage of sales exported has risen from 27% to 45%. The company’s top five overseas markets are USA, Australia, EU, Canada, and New Zealand. In April, the company won the Queen’s Award for International Trade for Outstanding Continuous Growth in overseas sales over the last six years.

Methodology

Data is based on a survey conducted in September 2022 of 2,000 Americans over the age of 18.

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