Do you have a chronic illness? That does not mean the end to having great sex. As those sexually active know, quality of sex can also affect quality of life and intimacy.
Suffering from Chronic fatigue immune dysfunction syndrome (CFIDS) since her teens, Joanna Charnas (LCSW and Huff-Post blogger), is now enjoying the best and most fulfilling sex of her life. The author of 100 Tips and Tools for Managing Chronic Illness gives a few reasons why:
• Switch up your sex life. Your body is different, so how you enjoy sex can be different too. Use your illness as an invitation to play and experiment. Try sex toys, role-play, or anything you’ve always wanted to explore – you’ve got built-in permission.
• Communicate what feels good to your sex partner as well as what does not. It’s okay to say, “if you touch my neck again I’ll scream like when little Suzy had colic, but why don’t you try licking the back of my knee?” Be bold and think outside of your routine. You won’t regret it.
• Timing may be important. Especially if you live with pain. Try a quickie at a time you usually are doing the laundry. See if different times of day are better for you and your particular needs.
• Remember: There is a big sexual menu. You don’t need a week in a secluded cabin in Maine to explore all of your options. Consider buying some sex books. Use the Kama Sutra to explore different positions, or the Joy of Sex to answer sensitive questions. Do whatever works and is consensual but more importantly, have fun.
The book, that Library Journal calls, “An excellent resource worthy of multiple reads. For those with a determined spirit during discouraging times,” is available on amazon.com. You may also be interested in visiting the website JoannaCharnas.com to learn more.
